3 Simple Yet Effective Ways to Build Your Confidence

3 Simple Yet Effective Ways to Build Your Confidence

Hi guys! Today I am excited to have my first guest post from my wonderful, fellow blogger Sheila over at Practigal Blog. Today she will be sharing with us her story of how she started believing in herself. She’ll also be offering us her advice on simple yet effective ways to build your confidence. I hope her words touch you as they have touched me too!

“The most beautiful thing you can wear is confidence.” Blake Lively

3 Simple Yet Effective Ways to Build Your Confidence

All of us need to build our confidence from time to time. It is so easy to feel insecure and to let the insecurity hold us back in life.

Often times, we don’t even realize how much we are holding ourselves back! We make excuses, we don’t feel good enough, or maybe we don’t believe that what we want out of life is even possible.

I want to give you 3 simple yet effective ways to begin to build your confidence again…confidence in yourself and in life.

About 11 years ago, I was at an all-time low—let’s just say I had seriously given into negativity. It started as guilt over what I thought were huge mistakes. I felt like a complete failure. This guilt turned into insecurity, and I really began to isolate myself.

It took me years to get over my failures, and when I did, it took me a few more to begin feeling confident. I’ve learned some valuable lessons along the way, and I can’t wait to share them with you. 😊 You can read more about my story here.

 

OVERCOMING YOUR INSECURITIES

Your insecurities might stem from something different than they did for me, but regardless, we all have them. We may be insecure about our abilities, our bodies, or our personality. There are, unfortunately, an infinite number of things to feel insecure about, but that doesn’t mean it’s inevitable.

Even more, feeling insecure doesn’t have to be your normal.

Feeling insecure used to be my normal. I almost always felt insecure in some way. There was always something to be embarrassed about, secretive about, or doubtful about.

The fact is, nothing you do can change that.

Every single person has things to be insecure about, no matter how confident they may seem. Click To Tweet

The difference is in whether or not we give in to our insecurities. We can choose to focus on the negative, or not. We can choose to get stuck in our thoughts, or not. And we can choose to believe the lie that we aren’t good enough, or not.

You and I are good enough. Not perfect, but good enough. You are good enough to live the life you want. You are good enough to make a change. And, you are good enough to be the type of person who lives with confidence.

Beginning to build your confidence is actually the first and most important step towards becoming the best version of yourself.

 

3 Simple Yet Effective Ways to Build Your Confidence

CONFIDENCE TAKES TIME AND COURAGE

Building your confidence takes time, but not as much time as you might think. The way to build your confidence as fast as possible is to make sure you are taking simple steps, no matter how small, towards confidence every single day.

Some of these baby steps will take a little bit of courage. And although courage sounds a lot like confidence, which we don’t have yet, they are actually very different. You can have courage without confidence. For example, I can have the courage to try something new, even if I’m not confident that the outcome will be desirable.

Courage is “the ability to do something that frightens one.” Confidence, however, is “the state of feeling certain about the truth of something” or having “firm trust”. So, courage almost assumes a lack of confidence.

You can be courageous, and you actually need to be courageous, if you want to become more confident. It takes courage to take that first step. And it takes courage to make a change.

Over time, you will need less and less courage, because you will be gaining more and more confidence. Seeing your small wins every day will naturally grow your confidence and help you to keep going.

BUILDING YOUR CONFIDENCE

So what are these small steps you should be taking daily to build your confidence? There are many things you can do, but I’ve learned that some things work better than others. The process of making any change in your life always has to begin with a mindset shift if you want it to work.

The simple ways I show you to build your confidence can help you because they begin with a mindset shift. So as long as you focus on changing your mindset in the way I describe, the rest will more easily follow. Through my experiences, I found that the key to building your confidence is to embrace, share, and build on your strengths.

 

  1. Embrace Your Strengths

The first and most important mindset shift is to begin to embrace your strengths. Before you can even learn to embrace your strengths, however, you need to know what they are. If you are like I was, you may have a really hard time figuring out your strengths.

I have struggled with knowing what my strengths are at times. Other times, I’ve known what my strengths are but didn’t believe they were as valuable as the strengths I saw in others. Both situations steal our confidence.

So, how do you figure out what your strengths are? You often need to reflect on the past in order to determine your strengths. Think about past words of encouragement, what you love to do, and what makes you unique, and write down any of the strengths, gifts, or abilities that come to mind.

If you are still stuck, ask someone who knows you well to you to help you out. Try asking them to describe you when you are at your best. Use this person’s description to write down some of your strengths.

I’m sure you have a great list of strengths to go off of now! Read over your list of strengths every day and really let them sink in.

Remind yourself daily that all of those strengths are true of you. Although there are also negative things true of you, remind yourself that you can become more of these good things and less of the bad things over time.

Over time, you will be able to embrace your strengths and truly believe that they are highly desirable, valuable, and sought-after strengths.

This takes pushing out the negative thoughts when they come and replacing them with the truth about you.

We have to renew our minds to the truth. Click To Tweet

 

 

  1. Share Your Strengths

Now that you have embraced your strengths, you are ready to start sharing them! Sharing your strengths means that you begin to intentionally use your strengths.

At this point, you have already set the groundwork for you to build your confidence. Now, you put the small amount of confidence you have to work so that you can gain even more confidence to make the changes you want in your life.

Let’s say that your dancing ability is one of your strengths. Now that you have embraced dancing as a valuable strength, you need to use it. You need to bless yourself and others with your gift. You need to dance for yourself if it brings you joy, but you also need to share your gift with others so that it can bring others joy as well.

Or maybe critical thinking is one of your strengths. You have embraced critical thinking as a valuable strength, so you begin to look for opportunities to use it.

You can begin to bless others with this strength in your work or personal life. And, you gain confidence in your ability to make decisions every time you use your critical thinking skills.

One of my strengths is empathy. I now call it my superpower, but at one point I saw it as a negative. A weakness even. Instead of calling myself empathetic, I called myself weak, sensitive, and emotional.

Once I was able to see my strength for what it was, I was able to embrace it and start using it to bless others. I started making deeper connections with people and was able to be there for people in a way that was unique to me.

You see, when you use your strengths, you gain even more confidence in them, and therefore, in yourself. You slowly build your confidence over time when you consistently put your strengths into practice and share them with others.

 

  1. Build On Your Strengths

Building your strengths happens naturally as you use them, but you can also intentionally build on your strengths. You can intentionally build on your strengths by creating opportunities to use them, rather than simply waiting for these opportunities to come your way.

For instance, you can sign yourself up for a class to learn how to grow a particular strength even more. You can volunteer in a new position that will stretch you and help you grow. The possibilities are endless!

The point is, don’t just embrace your strengths and leave it at that. Grow your strengths to be even greater strengths. Make them your superpower. 😉

When you build on the strengths you already have, you build your confidence. You will be confident in your abilities, confident in your personality, and confident in yourself.

This method of building confidence worked wonders for me and still is. My wish for you is that you will be able to live the life you have always wanted by focusing on your strengths, on what you can do instead of what you think you can’t.

And I hope you can see the immense value of your strengths. I even pray that you can see how much the world needs you.

You can become a more confident person by knowing and embracing your strengths, sharing your strengths with others, and growing your strengths over time. I promise!

With love and encouragement,

Sheila Price


About The Author: 

Practigal Blog- Sheila Price

Sheila Price is a wife, mom of three, minimalist, and introvert. Sheila writes over on Practigal Blog about simplifying every area of life so that you can prioritize what matters most to you. She always gives practical tips to make your life both easier and more fulfilling. Make sure to connect with Sheila on Instagram or Facebook!


I hope you enjoyed this amazing piece written by the one and only Sheila Price. Be sure to check out her blog as well. If you liked this post, be sure to share it with your friends and comment your thoughts. I love reading your comments.

Please be sure to check out this post on How To Completely Change Your Mindset or these tips for How To Build Your Self Esteem.

Until next time. Peace, love and prayers.

 

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236 Comments

  1. February 26, 2018 / 10:48 AM

    These are such great ideas. I do have issues being confident at times. I’ll keep these in mind the next time I struggle. I know I do try to build on my strength on a daily basis.

    • March 2, 2018 / 2:32 PM

      Wonderful. I know the more you work on and believe in yourself, the more confident you will become

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:24 PM

      I’m glad that you found my guest post helpful, Amber! You are already well on your way to being comfortable in your own skin. 😊

  2. February 26, 2018 / 4:35 PM

    This is a lovely post with some great tips. I love the line ‘being insecure doesn’t have to be your normal’. I sometimes struggle with insecurities. I’ll keep your suggestions in mind for when I do!

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:26 PM

      Thank you so much, Aditi! Everyone is insecure from time to time, but if insecurity becomes your normal, it’s time to do something about it! Thanks for your kinds words, and I’m so glad that you found this post helpful. 😊

  3. February 26, 2018 / 4:53 PM

    Thank you so much for sharing this post. I am currently at a point where I am questioning about my life, the direction that I am heading to (career-wise), to the extent that I am starting to doubt muself; but thanks for telling me that I am “good enough”. This really encourages me to keep going! Cheers 🙂

    • March 2, 2018 / 2:19 PM

      Yes! I am so happy to hear that. Keep going. You’ll make it

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:29 PM

      I’m so glad that you found this post encouraging! You got this!

  4. February 26, 2018 / 10:43 PM

    This was great! We all have something or another that we are insecure about, but working through it and showing our confidence really is the best thing we can do!

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:31 PM

      Thanks, Jessica! You’re right…practice makes perfect. 😉

  5. February 26, 2018 / 10:51 PM

    Changing your mindset can be so hard. It’s definitely not a flip of a switch deal, it takes time to change how you feel about yourself.

    • March 2, 2018 / 10:21 AM

      It does take time but once you get started it only gets better from there

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:32 PM

      Yes, Joanna! Changing your mindset is the hardest part, but it’s also the key to all successful change. We all have to begin there if we want to better any area of our lives. 😊

  6. February 27, 2018 / 12:46 AM

    These are great tips! I think signing up for a class is a great idea. Not only do you get to build a strength, but you get to meet people who like the same things you like.

    • March 2, 2018 / 10:18 AM

      Yes! Building strengths around other like-minded people really does help.

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:33 PM

      Thanks for taking the time to comment, Jessica! I’m so glad you found the tips helpful. 😊

  7. February 27, 2018 / 1:59 AM

    I think these are great ways to help build confidence. Sharing our strengths and receiving that positive feedback from others is a great boost in self confidence.

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:35 PM

      Thanks, Aduke! You are so right! Sometimes we are insecure for no reason, so putting ourselves out there and sharing our strengths is a great way to get a sense of our worth.

  8. February 27, 2018 / 3:28 AM

    This is such an important post!! I loved what you wrote here

  9. February 27, 2018 / 4:42 AM

    I mostly agree with everything. Knowing your strengths and using them can help boost your confidence. Knowing and owning your weaknesses too I think. It gives you something to work on and little goals that boot your motivation and once achieved, your confidence! xx corinne

    • March 1, 2018 / 4:08 PM

      Thank you so much for adding that very important point

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:40 PM

      Thanks for sharing your perspective! You are right about owning your weaknesses and working to improve them. I am a firm believer, though, that when we focus on our weaknesses instead of our strengths, we tend to put ourselves in a box and make assumptions about what we can and cannot do without even trying.

  10. February 27, 2018 / 4:57 AM

    Having low confidence is awful, it is something that can really have a huge knock-on effect to all different areas but it is as you say something people can work on and hopefully improve.

    • March 1, 2018 / 4:07 PM

      Yes if we truly believe in our-self the confidence itself will come in time

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:41 PM

      I’ve had low confidence for years, so I know how hard it is! I still struggle with low self-esteem at times, but these are the things that have helped me grow in confidence over time. 😊

  11. February 27, 2018 / 8:25 AM

    Confidence is something you got just have. Sometimes it is hard to have it and sometimes it comes when you need it 🙂

    • March 1, 2018 / 4:05 PM

      It can be a funny thing but I do believe you can work on your confidence

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:43 PM

      You are right, confidence is already within each of us. We just need to work sometimes to bring it to the surface!

  12. Crystal Marie
    February 27, 2018 / 9:23 AM

    Great quote from Blake Lively. I completely agree with you

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:43 PM

      Thanks for taking the time to comment, Crystal!

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:44 PM

      Thanks, Cathleen! I hope that you find that these tips help you and your students. 😊

  13. February 27, 2018 / 4:38 PM

    It’s really important that you believe in yourself and that you know your strengths. These are all on point. We have to consider that it takes some work to build that confidence but it’s definitely worth it.

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:45 PM

      Thank you so much for your kind words, Annmarie! And you are right, the work it takes to grow your confidence is so worth it…and necessary!

  14. Emma Steve
    February 27, 2018 / 6:56 PM

    All of us need to build our confidence from time to time. This is highly motivating.

  15. February 27, 2018 / 11:14 PM

    I have to say, I am pretty blessed in the respect that I have never really suffered from low self esteem and I think the way I was raised really helped shape my strong sense of self. No, I am not an arrogant person, just confident in my skin, like so many people should be because we all have valuable things to offer to the world!

    • March 1, 2018 / 3:59 PM

      It is wonderful to hear that you love yourself and your upbringing really helped to cement your confidence

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:48 PM

      The way we are raised greatly affects us! I’m so glad you had a wonderful upbringing. Keep sharing your perspective on each person’s value. People need to hear that!

  16. February 27, 2018 / 11:33 PM

    I believe we all, at one point or another, feel insecure. Reminding ourselves of our good qualities and what makes us unique is sometimes hard. These are great tips and I hope to incorporate them into my life and my students lives as well. Thank you!

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:49 PM

      You’re right, Courtney! It is SO HARD. I hope that you see great results over time from putting these tips into practice.

  17. February 28, 2018 / 12:12 AM

    What an inspirational piece. I love that you mentioned sharing your strengths. A lot of the times we focus on our weaknesses.

    • March 1, 2018 / 3:57 PM

      Yes but focusing on our strengths is so much better

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:50 PM

      No one needs to be reminded to know their weaknesses, LOL! That’s why I try to focus on my strengths, and why I left out weaknesses from this post. 😉

  18. February 28, 2018 / 12:17 AM

    I think everyone should read this! This is all very true!

  19. February 28, 2018 / 2:04 AM

    Loved this and they really are great tips, I need to work on building my strengths and just going for it because I sometimes let doubt come in and just make me feel less confident.

    • March 1, 2018 / 3:55 PM

      It can be hard to be confident all the time but it is definitely not impossible. We just need to keep working hard

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:52 PM

      It’s so true, Joan, that you need to take small steps of confidence every day in order to begin believing in yourself. Just do it!

  20. February 28, 2018 / 3:12 AM

    These are great advice. I think recognizing and embracing ones strengths can definitely improve your confidence. I think it is also the fear of being judged that can really knock our self-esteem.

    • February 28, 2018 / 4:46 PM

      Thank you so much. I completely agree with you

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:53 PM

      So true! We often worry too much about what others will think.

  21. February 28, 2018 / 3:20 AM

    I, too, struggled to figure out my strengths. I figured out what I was good at, and what made me happy, and figured out how to use them to my advantage.

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:54 PM

      That’s amazing, Amanda! I’m so proud of you. 😊 That’s not an easy thing for people to realize and do.

  22. February 28, 2018 / 4:45 AM

    These are all great tips, I love that the second one was sharing your strengths. I think so often people hide away their strengths when really they should be shared with the world. So excited to share this post.

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:55 PM

      Thank you so much for commenting and sharing, Courtney!

  23. February 28, 2018 / 6:35 AM

    I often struggle with confidence and have always had low self esteem. But in recent years my confidence has really improved because I have learned to focus on my strengths rather than always focusing on comparing myself to others.

    • February 28, 2018 / 4:43 PM

      Yes focusing on your strengths over your weaknesses really helps.

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:57 PM

      That’s amazing, Ana! So proud of you. 😊

  24. February 28, 2018 / 7:08 AM

    I always have insecurities when it comes to my body. I feel a little bit depress when I gain weight, but recently I realize enough with the self pity. I need to stay active and eat healthy to be able to achieve my weight goal. Insecurities can over come if you stay focus on your goal.

    • February 28, 2018 / 4:42 PM

      I think we all have things about our bodies that we dislike. We need to remember though that we were fearfully and wonderfully made so embrace everything about yourself that makes you you

    • March 9, 2018 / 11:58 PM

      You are not alone in this! Keep focused on what you are good at, and celebrate all of the small wins. 😊

  25. Andrea
    February 28, 2018 / 7:25 AM

    this post really came close to home, it took a while but the confidence I didn’t have before and didn’t think I could have is finally in me and while it took some time, I am happy with the person that I am and the path I am taking.

    • February 28, 2018 / 4:41 PM

      Oh I am so happy to hear that. I struggled for a very long time but thank goodness that I have learned and grown since then.

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:00 AM

      It does take time, but I’m so glad you persevered, Andrea!

  26. February 28, 2018 / 7:57 AM

    Love this post! What wonderful advice. They say you learn by teaching others. In this case, modeling confidence is part of integrating it into your being so that it is 2nd nature. You are brilliant and beautiful!! Thank you! <3 xo Evelyn, PathofPresence.com

    • February 28, 2018 / 4:41 PM

      You are so welcome. I am happy that Sheila’s words were able to help you out

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:02 AM

      I love the way you worded that, Evelyn! I learn so much from all of you. And thank you so much for the kind words!!!

  27. February 28, 2018 / 8:06 AM

    I loved this. I think as women, we are groomed to be “perfect” and everything to everybody. It’s easy to get caught up in negativity, and being an insecure person compounds that by 1000! I love the suggestions here on how to build confidence. So many things in life can tear us down to the point where we feel like we will never be good enough. Thanks for the reminder that I AM!

    • February 28, 2018 / 4:39 PM

      You are so good enough. Never let the facade that is seen everywhere affect how you see yourself. You are perfect just the way you are.

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:03 AM

      So true, Kristi! We as women often feels like we need to do it all…and be amazing at it. I’m glad that you are able to see that you are enough. 😊

  28. February 28, 2018 / 8:27 AM

    really great write up. I love it. Especially the last paragraph! we gotta share that everywhere! 😉

  29. February 28, 2018 / 9:24 AM

    what a great thing to share, i think we all struggle with confidence at a point in our lives, is just that we always focus more on the things we dont like about us, instead of our strengths. something to always keep in mind

    • February 28, 2018 / 4:38 PM

      Yes many times we focus on the negatives in life and that severely affects our confidence

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:05 AM

      Yes, exactly, Nallely! Thanks for commenting!

  30. Jay Colby
    February 28, 2018 / 9:28 AM

    Building your confidence is vital to our success in life. Without confidence it can lead to anxiety and fear.

    • February 28, 2018 / 4:37 PM

      Yes it can lead to fear and noone can fully live being fearful

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:06 AM

      So true, Jay! I’ve struggled with anxiety as a result of my low self-esteem in the past. Growing in confidence is a necessary part of life.

  31. Kim
    February 28, 2018 / 9:46 AM

    I love these ideas! I definitely feel that confidence is so underrated. It’s so important for so many reasons.

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:08 AM

      You’re right, Kim. Confidence is underrated, I think because it’s gotten a bad rap. Some people equate confidence with being cocky and arrogant, but that just doesn’t have to be the case!

  32. February 28, 2018 / 9:49 AM

    I absolutely believe in the importance of building our confidence and celebrating our strengths. We should be our #1 cheerleader and supporter.

    • February 28, 2018 / 12:02 PM

      Yes we should always cheer for our-self. It really helps

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:09 AM

      We should be, Jennifer, but that is so hard for many! It takes time for most of us to get there. Life tends to beat us down if we let it.

  33. February 28, 2018 / 10:14 AM

    I love how all of this plays to people strengths. That is the best way to build anything.

    • February 28, 2018 / 11:57 AM

      Yes! It is so important to play to our strengths.

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:09 AM

      Yes, Irina! I knew that no one would need help seeing their weaknesses. We do that just fine with no reminders. 😉

  34. February 28, 2018 / 11:01 AM

    Such great tips! Always a great reminder. Definitely agree with these.

  35. Holly B
    February 28, 2018 / 11:36 AM

    I have depression and struggle with self esteem. I’m a mom and rarely take time to help myself. Thanks for the much needed encouragement and advice.

    • March 1, 2018 / 3:48 PM

      You are welcome. I hope you keep building your confidence daily

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:16 AM

      Thanks for taking the time to comment, Holly. I have also struggled with depression and low self-esteem, so I feel you! I’m a mom as well, and it definitely makes it harder to prioritize yourself. Don’t give up! Your children need the best version of you, but you will need to work to bring her out. 😊 I’m so glad you found help and encouragement in this post.

  36. February 28, 2018 / 12:19 PM

    Great advice! Confidence does wonders for the heart and soul.

  37. Emma Steve
    February 28, 2018 / 3:53 PM

    Great tips! I absolutely believe in the importance of building our confidence and celebrating our strengths.

    • March 1, 2018 / 3:46 PM

      Thank you. It really helps our lives so much when we believe in ourselves

  38. February 28, 2018 / 6:14 PM

    Thanks for this inspiring “strength building post”!

  39. February 28, 2018 / 8:20 PM

    This is such an empowering post! I love how the tips were chronological and how they fit together so well, each step is a way to get to the next step. I love step three because I was not confident for the majority of my life, but I realized that in some way I do contribute to the world and that I should be a bit confident so I can help the world in even more ways. Thanks for sharing!

    • March 1, 2018 / 10:31 AM

      You are so welcome. I am so happy to hear that you are embracing your world and becoming more confident!

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:20 AM

      I’m so glad you found my post to be empowering. You are right…one thing naturally leads to the next. You are uniquely you and the world need you!

  40. February 28, 2018 / 10:24 PM

    This is super helpful, especially for those who are lacing in confidence. I was always a believer in “fake it til you make it” lol. Real confidence comes from the inside for sure!

    • March 1, 2018 / 9:17 AM

      It does. I practiced that fake it til you make it mantra and it really worked

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:22 AM

      Thanks, Jessica! Real confidence is already within each of us, but we have to do a little work to bring it out.

  41. February 28, 2018 / 10:24 PM

    This is such a beautifully penned post. I often go through insecurities and like mentioned in the post, the only thing that helps me pick myself is to believe in my strengths and that there is nobody else who can help me if I don’t do it myself. I am glad these are just phases and don’t last too long.

    • March 1, 2018 / 9:02 AM

      Yes sometimes we will have our peaks and valleys but it is important to remember that we are so much more than we can ever fathom

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:24 AM

      Thank you so much, Sapna! It begins with the right mindset, doesn’t it? For some people though, insecurity isn’t just a phase, it’s how they feel each and every day!

  42. March 1, 2018 / 12:26 AM

    Long post but great ideas. I am a lazy reader next time u can use point form… 🙂

    • March 1, 2018 / 8:50 AM

      It is long for a reason though. I think Sheila wanted to really flesh things out for her readers. Thanks for reading though!!

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:25 AM

      LOL, Akila! Thanks for the advice.

  43. March 1, 2018 / 12:43 AM

    There’s nothing like sharing your strengths. These are all good pointers. Thanks for sharing!

  44. March 1, 2018 / 1:08 AM

    Sometimes it is so hard to be confident, even if you are aware of your capabilities. Building strengths and mastering your skills is definitely a way of growing your confidence. I’ve recently been through a situation when I needed confidence and I still have no idea how I did it and passed the exam 🙂

    • March 1, 2018 / 7:59 AM

      The thing that you need to understand is that the strength has been within you all along. You just need to find it

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:28 AM

      You are right, Joanna. I didn’t want to over-simplify this, but you have to start somewhere! You’re right that it takes building and mastering your skills to really have confidence in yourself. Congrats on passing the exam!

  45. Alice
    March 1, 2018 / 1:21 AM

    That s a great post! I wish I would have been able to read something like this when I was 15 16! Keep up the great work!

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:30 AM

      I know right?! I feel like when I wrote this I was talking to my 15-year-old self. 😉 Thanks for commenting, Alice!

  46. March 1, 2018 / 2:15 AM

    Great article. I agree on the strength premise. If you truly know who you are, then embrace, build and share from that space your confidence level will soar. Fact!

  47. March 1, 2018 / 3:29 AM

    These are some really good points! I believe in people being in a good, self-confident space. This is perfect! Thanks for sharing!

  48. March 1, 2018 / 4:04 AM

    Confidence does take time and courage. This is something I am working on myself, it takes effort and can be scary at times, but it’s important for me to push myself ouside of my comfort zone from time to time.

    • March 1, 2018 / 7:53 AM

      Yes. Pushing yourself to be more is so darn important

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:37 AM

      Yep, you got it, Natalie! I don’t consider myself a confident person, but I have my moments. Taking regular, small steps of courage has helped me grow in confidence!

  49. March 1, 2018 / 7:45 AM

    I really needed to read this today. I can sometimes forget how strong I am because of what I see in the world.

    • March 1, 2018 / 7:53 AM

      Awww. I am so happy to hear that. Keep being strong.

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:38 AM

      I’m so glad you found this post, Angela! Life tries to beat you down, but try not to let it! You are amazingly strong. 😊

  50. March 1, 2018 / 8:01 AM

    Confidence is definitely not something that just falls in your lap when you struggle with it. It takes a lot of work and persistence.

    • March 1, 2018 / 8:05 AM

      Yes a lot of work and belief in yourself and your abilities

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:39 AM

      You’re right, Tatanisha! Confidence takes work, but it is so worth it!

  51. March 1, 2018 / 8:16 AM

    Building confidence is so hard, especially when you don’t have any at all. It’s really good to start building confidence at a young age, and I focus on helping my daughters daily.

    • March 1, 2018 / 1:29 PM

      That is great. I am happy that you help your daughters daily

    • March 1, 2018 / 1:32 PM

      That is great. I am happy that you help your daughters daily.

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:41 AM

      It’s hard to start from nothing, Joanna. But, it gets easier each time. 😊 I’m so glad that you are helping your daughters grow in confidence!

  52. Ally Jones
    March 1, 2018 / 8:54 AM

    These are such amazing tips! I cannot wait to adapt these ASAP!

  53. March 1, 2018 / 9:10 AM

    This is an inspiring post. Thanks so much for sharing.

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:42 AM

      I’m so glad the post left you inspired, Suzanne! Thanks for reading and commenting. 😊

  54. March 1, 2018 / 10:27 AM

    These are great tips! I think some people don’t realize that it takes time to build confidence.

    • March 1, 2018 / 10:32 AM

      It does take time and consistent working on yourself to have the confidence you need but it will come.

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:43 AM

      You are right, Bianca! Most people think they were born with (or without) confidence. But, that’s simply not true!

  55. March 1, 2018 / 2:52 PM

    Thanks for this post. Your suggestions are the best because what better way to build confiedence than to look within.

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:44 AM

      Yes! We all have confidence and amazing strength within us. For some of us, it’s harder to recognize.

  56. March 1, 2018 / 5:35 PM

    Such a great list that makes absolute sense. However I think I’m still going to struggle finding out what my strengths are. I would ask someone but I feel like I’m trying to boost my ego (and that feels weird). I’ll keep thinking about it though and see if I can come up with anything so I can move on to your second recommendation and share my strength 🙂

    • March 2, 2018 / 10:17 AM

      Hmmm. Keep working on it. I find that if you don’t try too hard then your strengths tend to show themselves really easily

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:46 AM

      I’ve struggled with finding my strengths as well, Zoe. They will know that you are not simply trying to boost your ego when you come to them asking for them to help you discover what you’re good at. Sometimes we find our strengths by experimenting. So that might help you as well!

  57. March 1, 2018 / 6:28 PM

    These are great, I’m so glad you were able to overcome your insecurities! I’m working really hard on believing I’m “good enough”.

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:47 AM

      It takes time, Marci! Be patient with yourself, and the confidence will come. You are enough, but you can’t compare yourself to others.

  58. March 1, 2018 / 11:20 PM

    I love this. Confidence is such an important personal trait and one we are always working on as humans. Thank you for the tips

  59. March 1, 2018 / 11:54 PM

    Have you heard for the Strengths Finder book? I took their quiz years ago and it was super helpful. I love the idea of focusing on your strengths rather than on your weaknesses.

    • March 2, 2018 / 10:07 AM

      I haven’t heard about that book at all. I need to look it up ASAP

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:48 AM

      I’ll have to check that book out, Nina! Thanks for the tip. 😉

  60. March 2, 2018 / 1:01 AM

    You definitely need to embrace your strengths if you want to succeed. But you are also right that you can’t just rest on your strengths but constantly be in the process of growing.

    • March 2, 2018 / 10:05 AM

      Yes it takes consistent growth to embrace who you are and build your confidence

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:49 AM

      Yep, David! Because the world needs more of you, not less!

  61. March 2, 2018 / 3:46 AM

    I like this. Quite often we try to work on our weaknesses and are disappointed when we don’t succeed BUT working and building on our strengths remind us how good we’re and helps with confidence. Simple but yet easily missed.

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:51 AM

      Working on our weaknesses is important, but shouldn’t be our focus. I’ve actually found that when I grow my strengths, somehow my weaknesses improve as well! Thanks for commenting!

  62. March 2, 2018 / 4:04 AM

    These are such great tips for building confidence! I think it definitely takes a lot of time but it’s all about the mindset and how you can change it. Great post!

    • March 2, 2018 / 10:02 AM

      Thank you. I do think whatever you think about affects the way you see yourself for real.

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:51 AM

      Yes, Christina! All real change begins with a shift in mindset.

  63. March 2, 2018 / 4:45 AM

    Okay, I really needed this today. I’ve been trying so hard to knock out my insecurities and be more confident, just in everyday life.

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:52 AM

      I’m so glad you found this post, Marci! Keep taking small courageous steps and you will get there!

  64. March 2, 2018 / 5:57 AM

    There are different type of circumstances that affects are confidence. I went through this last year because of a long term relationship breakup followed by a rebound breakup. It was the most horrible things that happened to me and what I did and allowed to experience. What you said is right. Building confidence will take time and just like mine, I am taking baby steps to regain it.

    • March 2, 2018 / 9:57 AM

      I am so happy to hear that you are working on building your confidence. You will get there

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:54 AM

      You’re right, Waren. Life can really beat us down and steal our confidence if we let it. I’m so glad you are taking small courageous steps to build your confidence back up!

  65. Mama in Heels
    March 2, 2018 / 6:28 AM

    Confidence is very sexy! It is something I always wear!

  66. March 2, 2018 / 10:21 AM

    I definitely think that EMBRACING your strengths is the most important thing you can do for your self-confidence.

  67. March 2, 2018 / 6:25 PM

    I believe that it really takes time to finally have courage and confidence. You just have to learn it from yourself first and it may take time to be able to have it. Just love and be yourself, that’s the first step.

    • March 3, 2018 / 8:22 PM

      Yes I think that loving yourself is a very important step

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:56 AM

      It does take time! I’m glad that you recognize that it begins with the mindset of loving yourself and embracing who you are.

  68. Blair Villanueva
    March 2, 2018 / 9:45 PM

    I heard this from someone, “never underestimate someone with confidence” and I agree. Example, we might be an awesome project manager, but when we lost our confidence during our important presentation, then we might have no chance of winning the bid.

    Or, a confident woman is more sexier than a model-looking one. Confidence is a huge key!

    • March 3, 2018 / 8:20 PM

      That’s so true. Confidence is the sexiest thing someone can wear

  69. March 3, 2018 / 12:11 AM

    I think having a confidence is super important. Low self-esteem and low-confidence can really take tole on your life and effect the people around you. These are some really good ideas, thanks for sharing.

    • March 10, 2018 / 12:58 AM

      It really does affect everything, doesn’t it? That’s why it’s so important to build our confidence slowly over time.

  70. March 3, 2018 / 1:39 AM

    I believe building self confidence is really important. For some its just natural to have self confidence but for some people like me, I ave to work on it.

    • March 3, 2018 / 8:17 PM

      I struggled too but doing these things helped me as well

    • March 10, 2018 / 1:01 AM

      I think most of us have to work at being confident! Some of us have had experiences in our lives that have beat us down, so it’s a lot harder. And some of us are more sensitive than others. I know for me, a lot of my low self-esteem stemmed from being highly sensitive. I have a hard time not internalizing the negativity around me!

  71. March 3, 2018 / 5:09 AM

    Like they say practice makes perfect. The same is with confidence. It takes some practice and some self-belief 🙂 I think your point on honing your strengths is so important to keep in mind.

    • March 3, 2018 / 8:15 PM

      I do agree that if you practice confidence it will come

    • March 10, 2018 / 1:02 AM

      Yes, confidence is something you have to practice!

  72. Khushboo
    March 3, 2018 / 6:30 AM

    That’s a helpful post I agree with all the points..confidence is very important

  73. March 4, 2018 / 12:49 AM

    These are such great tips! It’s difficult at times to share my strengths when you’re an introvert, but I’ve definitely been getting better at it!

    Marriah Tarango
    Tarango Visual Studio

    • March 15, 2018 / 10:11 PM

      You are so right, Marriah. It is harder for us introverts. I can totally relate! I’m glad that you are finding that sharing your strengths is getting easier over time. 😊

  74. Bobbi
    March 6, 2018 / 2:58 AM

    This is something that I really need to work on. Confidence is one of my biggest struggles.

    • March 10, 2018 / 1:04 AM

      I hope you found my post helpful, Bobbi! Confidence is one of my biggest struggles as well, but this is what has helped me. Let me know if I can assist you further. 😊

  75. Anshika Juneja
    March 7, 2018 / 9:23 PM

    I agree, these are some amazing tips. thanks for sharing!

  76. Anreeba
    March 13, 2018 / 4:19 PM

    Some of us are more sensitive than others, so all of us need to build our confidence from time to time. This is highly motivating and inspirational.

    • March 13, 2018 / 10:02 PM

      So true, Anreeba! I’m so glad you found my post helpful. Thank you so much for reading and taking the time to comment. 😊

  77. April 6, 2018 / 10:42 PM

    Enjoyed examining this, very good stuff, appreciate it.

  78. April 21, 2018 / 9:28 AM

    I really need to work on my self confidence because it is really holding me back. I want to do that but I am afraid that I am not good enough or what will they think? These thoughts run through my mind a lot of times. I will try keeping these in mind. Thanks <3

    • April 21, 2018 / 10:15 PM

      It’s great that you are able to recognize that it’s holding you back. It sounds cheesy, but it really is the first step. I have those same fears, so I can totally relate to how you are feeling. I promise you that if you take consistent steps of courage, no matter how tiny, you will start to gain confidence. You ARE enough! And soon you will believe it too. ❤️

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