5 Important Life Lessons You Will Learn

5 Important Life Lessons You Will Learn

Our lives are a series of moments that all add up to tell a unique story. These moments and the lessons we learn along the way not only help to shape us into the people we were always meant to be, they are also meant to eliminate the beliefs and mindset that aren’t for our good. It’s important, as we travel along our journey, to keep our eyes and ears peeled for the important life lessons that will come our way. These lessons are key to our personal growth and development, and in this post, I’m going to discuss five of them in greater detail.

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them―that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” ―Lao Tzu

 

What Are 5 Of The Most Important Life Lessons?

 

1. YOU NEED TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

When I was a child, I believed that I could be just about anything I wanted to be. I knew I had the skills and the drive to make things happen. As I grew older, and the more social media influenced my life, the less and less I believed in myself and what I would be able to do with my future.

Believing in yourself is one of the most important life lessons you will ever need to learn. When you believe in yourself and in the power of your dreams, there is absolutely nothing that can hold you back.

Our minds are incredibly powerful instruments and when we harbour negative, limiting beliefs, they hinder our success and keep us bound. Negative beliefs prevent us from going after the things we want, speaking up when we need to and give us permission to live below our heavenly potential.

One thing I have learned, and have had to relearn many times is that belief is truly the ruler of our lives. The level of belief that you have will always directly influence whether you fail or succeed (and if you’re able to get back up after messing up).

No matter what circumstances you face, believing in yourself will always make a difference. It will also mean the difference between moving forward and standing still (or remaining stagnant).

When you believe that you can’t that means you’re listening to external voices that tell you it is impossible when even the word says “I’m possible.”

If you believe in yourself, have dedication, pride and never quit, you will always come out on top. Remember that!

 

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2. YOU DON’T NEED ANYONE’S APPROVAL

Often, as children, we are taught to believe that becoming a great human being means having the approval of other people. That is simply not true.

Owning your life and embracing who you are means having the courage to love yourself regardless of other people’s opinions. People are fickle and as hard as we might try, we will never fully have anyone’s approval, and that is perfectly okay.

As a teen, I was a people pleaser. Every day I got up, no matter how happy I was, if someone made a negative comment about my hairstyle or the clothes I was wearing, my entire day was ruined. I soon realized that true happiness doesn’t need a “yes” from anyone, and this is one important life lesson I carry with me to this day.

The people who are the most successful in life, have no time for outside voices. They don’t care about other people’s opinions because they understand that opinions are not fact, they are simply opinions. 

When you spend your life listening to too many outside voices, you have little to no time to really enjoy what life has to offer. God created skies to look at, flowers to smell and yummy food to eat. There is just too much to experience in life to waste your time wondering about what others might think.

One of the harshest lessons learned was this: The need for approval can only negatively impact our lives. It prevents us from doing our best because we fear the worst. If you live for people’s acceptance, you will surely die from their rejection.

 

3. SELF-DOUBT WILL ALWAYS HOLD YOU BACK

As someone who has struggled with self-doubt for the larger part of her childhood, I can tell you that giving in to fear and doubt will always hold you back. It will hold you back from pursuing your goals, achieving success, and keep you trapped in a prison of your own making.

In order to step into your true purpose and create the life you want, you need to let go of self-doubt permanently.

I call self-doubt “the monkey of destruction” because it can only destroy your dreams; it will never build them. When this monkey rears its ugly head, you need to shut that thing down instantly. Don’t entertain thoughts that will do nothing but bring you down.

God, when He created us, did not give us a spirit of fear. He gave us a spirit of love, power and a strong mind. Doubt, low self-confidence and low self-esteem are nowhere in that gift and they are not of God.

We are stronger than we believe and doubt is a powerful tool that the devil uses to keep us from stepping into our higher calling. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Any life coach will tell you that if you can believe in your worth and hold onto it, self-doubt can never thrive.

Most times it is not the lack of ability but the lack of confidence that prevents us from achieving what we really want. It’s always doable, but self-doubt makes it impossible. This is one of the most powerful life lessons that I will never forget.

 

4. PROCRASTINATION KILLS DREAMS

I wish I had learned this life lesson sooner than later. No matter how smart you are, and no matter how capable you might think you are, if you procrastinate you will never succeed.

I’ve had the fantastic opportunity to talk to tons of people from varying backgrounds throughout my career. I have spoken to rich people, poor people and everyone in between. The one lesson I learned from speaking to them all is that successful people don’t wait on success to walk through the door, they bang the door down!

Understanding this concept has completely transformed my life. For years, I would wonder why I wasn’t as successful as the “Bill Gates” next door or why I wasn’t being featured in Time Magazine. The answer was simple.

I spent way too much time dreaming and not enough time doing.

Dreaming is amazing but doing is even more fantastic. You need to get off your butt and go make things happen if you want to birth your dreams.

Procrastination will always kill your dreams. Every day when you wake up, you have a choice. You can either do something that will bring you one step closer to succeeding, or you can wait for the right opportunity to come your way.

Each time you make a conscious choice to be productive, you start to realize that your dreams are closer than you think. This is a lesson I’m still learning and it’s one you’re probably learning it too.

Understand that if Oprah, Marshawn Evans-Daniels or Marie Forleo had poor productivity and organization skills, they wouldn’t be the powerful, successful women they are today.

You need to learn to stop making excuses for why you can’t get things done, and start focusing on all the reasons why you need to make it happen.

 

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5. YOU WILL FIND YOUR LIFE PURPOSE

It has taken me about 28 years to discover what it is that I want to do with my life. That means I’ve spent 28 years of my life making mistakes, getting pushed down because of the bad decisions I’ve made, and trying a variety of career paths before stumbling upon the right one.

Take some time to think about what you want to do with your life. Think about the kind of legacy you want to leave behind long after you’re gone.

Once you start yearning for more and begin your journey, you will find your life purpose. I often say that purpose is a funny thing. Purpose stretches you, leads you and moulds you into becoming a better version of yourself, and that’s why we’re often terrified.

We’re afraid that we will never live a life of impact, but we remain stuck because we’re also afraid that our purpose is going to lead us into unmarked territory. As you live and learn, you’ll realize that living a life of purpose is really the only way to live.

If your desire is to truly make a difference in the world, then you will need to step into your God-given purpose. Once that desire is planted inside you, trust that you will find what you’ve been looking for.

If you are meant to teach then find your students, and teach as many people as you can, in whatever field you can and transform as many lives as you can.

 

YOUR LIFE IS UNPREDICTABLE

It can be scary growing older and feeling more and more pressured to get your life together. Life is such an unpredictable, beautiful mess, yet so many people fail to learn the lessons they need to create greatness from that mess.

The one lesson I’ve come to learn and love is that life gets better the less you try to predict and prepare for every single aspect of it. Though life might be hard, and you might fall, God is always there to guide you if you only ask.

You don’t need to be afraid of all the experiences coming your way if you’re ready to embrace the lessons you will learn. Everything in your life happens for a reason, and it’s up to us to figure out how each lesson, painful or otherwise, fits into the bigger plan God has for our lives.


If you enjoyed reading about the five most important life lessons you will learn, you would enjoy reading more about how to own your life and unleash your true potential.

Also, let me know. What life lessons have you been learning? Have they been easy to understand?

I love reading your comments and hearing your thoughts so please comment down below. Also if you have any questions feel free to ask me them in the comment section below. Please also like and share this post and sign up so you never miss a thing!

 

Until next time. Peace, love and prayers.

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  1. Karen
    November 30, 2017 / 9:48 AM

    Oh my gosh this is great! I am older and heartily concur with all of these. I will honestly say that my life improved for the better when I did some spring cleaning and removed toxic people from my life. Yes, it means less socializing and a smaller friend list but it’s so worth it. also agree that everyone should travel solo at least once. And you are right…it doesn’t have to be some exotic location. There are fascinating things to see right in our own backyard.

    • November 30, 2017 / 12:03 PM

      This comment made me smile. I am so happy to hear that after learning these lessons your life improved ten fold. It can be difficult ridding ourselves of people but as you said, it is so worth it. Bless you.

  2. November 30, 2017 / 10:00 AM

    I think everyone should travel solo, it’s freeing and you learn about yourself without being hindered with another person.

    • November 30, 2017 / 12:04 PM

      Yes the first time I did, it was so scary but you live and you learn as you travel some more. It’s amazing.

  3. November 30, 2017 / 10:15 AM

    ALL.OF.THIS! This is perfection, every part of this post

  4. November 30, 2017 / 10:16 AM

    I really believe in cutting out toxic people! We all know them.. thanks for the advice~

    Vivian | LIVE IN LOVE
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    • November 30, 2017 / 12:06 PM

      Yes toxic people will suck you dry and you won’t be able to get to where you need to be in life if you keep holding on.

    • December 3, 2017 / 2:01 PM

      That is so true. I used to judge myself so harshly for such along time.

  5. December 1, 2017 / 7:32 AM

    You’re so right, and the last point has been my biggest problem for a long time. I have too many passions and I never knew what to choose. I wanted it all! Blogging allows me to combine all of these passions so I feel that I’ve also finally found out what I’m meant to do (38 years later… ).

    • December 3, 2017 / 2:02 PM

      I love this. I know how it feels to want to do too much all at the same time I’m so happy you’ve discovered what your purpose in life is.

  6. December 1, 2017 / 7:42 AM

    Great lessons here – solid advice!

  7. December 1, 2017 / 10:13 PM

    Great list. I’m yet to travel solo and need to really take that on one of these days

    • December 3, 2017 / 2:06 PM

      Try to start in your community or country and build up from there. You’ll love it.

  8. December 1, 2017 / 10:41 PM

    Very, very true. The first time a flew solo is since about 3 years ago and now I don’t want to change it.

    • December 3, 2017 / 2:07 PM

      That’s fantastic. Keep traveling solo while exploring who you are and the world around you.

  9. December 2, 2017 / 12:37 PM

    Thisnso justbthe encouragement I needed today. Especially the part about toxic people. I recently discovered that my MIL is one of those toxic people and have been having doubts about cutting hee off… I needed to hear that my choices are my own to make. Thank you

    • December 3, 2017 / 2:09 PM

      You are welcome. This can be a very difficult decision to make regarding ridding your life of toxic people. Just remember that your state if mind is not worth keeping unhealthy people around, family or not.

  10. Diana
    December 2, 2017 / 3:18 PM

    I think everyone should travel solo.It can be difficult ridding ourselves of people but as you said, it is so worth it.

  11. December 3, 2017 / 7:55 AM

    I love these! I have especially been working on getting rid of toxic people, and even though it was hard, I must say that I feel SO much better. I LOVE solo traveling, too. I actually met my husband when I randomly moved across the country for the summer (alone) and took a road trip up the entire coast of CA (alone). I love the freedom and just meeting people and making friends along the way (: Great list!q

    • December 3, 2017 / 2:11 PM

      This comment made me smile so hard. You are absolutely amazing!

  12. December 3, 2017 / 9:33 AM

    Some of life’s most important lessons are hard and a bit scary at first. Cleansing and removing toxic people is so crucial.

  13. December 3, 2017 / 10:33 AM

    This is a great list of lessons to learn! I think I have worked through/am continuing to work through a lot of these lessons 🙂

    • December 3, 2017 / 2:13 PM

      It happens to all of us. Some even more than once. I had to learn some lessons twice on my journey to where I am now.

  14. December 3, 2017 / 3:11 PM

    Thanks for the read Dee!
    The Creative Interests and Hobbies Lesson is a good one. I have recently learnt this hard lesson and I am grateful to now include creative hobbies into my life again.
    xoxo
    Nikita
    NikitaRose.com

    • December 4, 2017 / 4:27 PM

      Thank you so much for commenting. Yes. For me, the creative interests and hobbies lesson was the most important one for me because it helped me to discover myself again. It helped me to discover a completely different side of myself.

  15. December 3, 2017 / 3:14 PM

    Hi Dee! 🙂 This is great! One of the things I’m trying to do now is to travel solo soon. Its like trying to find yourself 🙂

    • December 4, 2017 / 4:28 PM

      Thank you so much. I hope you enjoy your solo travels and please do let me know more about them.

  16. December 3, 2017 / 5:14 PM

    There’s a LOT of valuable info in this post Dee Dee. I think it’s so important for (women especially) to take the time to “find” themselves, develop their own interests and travel. Because at the end of the day, you need to work on yourself! Thanks for sharing! 🙂

    • December 4, 2017 / 4:29 PM

      Yes! We need to work on ourselves. So many times we are so busy working on everyone else that we neglect our own needs.

  17. December 3, 2017 / 7:02 PM

    I really love this post. I need to travel Solo…I hope this will help me grow my confident

    • December 4, 2017 / 4:30 PM

      I wish you the best in your travels. Go out there and have the time of your life.

  18. December 3, 2017 / 9:30 PM

    Beautiful post, I am definitely neglected my passions, and need to find my path. I’m on the way though, there was some great advice in this post. X

    • December 4, 2017 / 4:32 PM

      Thank you so much. I truly wish you all the best on your journey. I’m sure you’ll find yourself along the way

  19. December 4, 2017 / 12:41 AM

    I couldn’t agree more with your list. Especially removing toxic people from your life and believing in yourself. Such important acts of self love that make a huge difference in your well being. ♡ Thanks for sharing!

    • December 4, 2017 / 4:34 PM

      You are so welcome. I find removing toxic people to be one of the hardest things people have to do but it is all worth it in the end.

  20. December 4, 2017 / 11:31 AM

    This is really good advice. I agree with you, especially on riding of toxic people.

  21. December 4, 2017 / 12:54 PM

    These are so important lessons, definitely we have to believe in ourselves and remove the toxins we are surrounded by to achieve our goals and have a successful life.

    • December 4, 2017 / 4:38 PM

      I completely agree with you. Thank you for visiting and commenting 🙂

  22. Indrani
    December 5, 2017 / 12:07 PM

    Yes very important lessons! I find pursuing a passion helps a lot.
    It helps forget all unnecessary and harmful toxins of life.

    • December 5, 2017 / 7:47 PM

      I completely agree with you. This is one of the most important life lessons we can ever learn

  23. December 7, 2017 / 7:22 AM

    I love how you embrace “process” in everything you do. Valuable life experiences are beat learned through one’s own experiences and not those of others. Your perspective reflects mine:). Life will teach you right?

    • December 8, 2017 / 4:07 PM

      Yes life truly will as long as you are open to the lessons.

  24. Jessica Taylor
    January 20, 2018 / 9:58 AM

    I wish I would have rid my life of toxic people much sooner! I feel so much better now.

    • January 22, 2018 / 12:05 PM

      Yes it is amazing the difference in your life once those people are no longer negatively affecting your space.

  25. January 20, 2018 / 10:17 AM

    Yes, these are such important lessons. I have had to say goodbye to toxic people. It was tough at first, but then my life became SO much easier when they were gone. And I do love traveling solo!

    • January 22, 2018 / 12:04 PM

      That’s great. Good to know that your life just keeps getting better.

  26. January 20, 2018 / 10:33 AM

    Loved this! I know that I had to learn lessons myself, as opposed to being told the outcome. I hate that it was like that, because I would have saved myself so much heartache.

    • January 22, 2018 / 12:03 PM

      Yeah there were many times when I wished I could have been told the lesson but I believe that there are just some lessons you need to learn for yourself.

  27. January 20, 2018 / 11:06 AM

    Life teaches us so much, I don’t think we ever stop learning, each day can bring a new lesson and new way to look at some of the things going on around us. These are 5 great ones though.

    • January 22, 2018 / 11:40 AM

      You are so right. Even after all that I have been through and everything I have learned. I am still learning new lessons everyday and it is great!

  28. January 20, 2018 / 4:30 PM

    This is really great, I am with you about the toxic friends who just hang around yet you really don’t need them.I have none of that but as much as one can feel lonely, it’s so worth it.

    • January 22, 2018 / 8:36 AM

      I agree. I prefer to be alone than to be surrounded by people who mean me no good.

  29. January 20, 2018 / 5:17 PM

    I have been traveling alone for 2+ years now and I can not advocate it enough, it is so important for personal growth and helps develop your confidence and self belief and teaches you more than what others would teach you

    • January 22, 2018 / 8:36 AM

      That is awesome. Travelling solo has so many benefits. Thanks for sharing your experience!

  30. January 20, 2018 / 5:20 PM

    Great tips for life! They are wisdom picked up from life experiences for sure! 🙂

  31. January 20, 2018 / 5:47 PM

    I’m a bit older and have also learned many of these lessons over time. Definitely get rid of toxic people! Sometimes all we need is one good friend 🙂

    • January 22, 2018 / 8:33 AM

      A great friend can be a truly powerful thing. I fully agree 🙂

  32. Sapna Krishnan
    January 20, 2018 / 11:27 PM

    I loved your post. I was in the dumps a few months back and while I could slowly manage to figure everything, removing toxic people was the most difficult. You get so used to them that you think it’s normal to be treated like that by them. You live in denial for the longest but when you finally do accept the truth, and show them the door, life is SO beautiful.

    • January 22, 2018 / 8:33 AM

      Wow. Life truly is beautiful one you start cleaning up your life of the stuff that no longer matter. Good on you for doing this!

  33. January 21, 2018 / 12:28 AM

    If there is one thing I have learned over the course of time, it’s believing in myself. You Need To Believe In Yourself because you decide your fate alone. Your choices will affect your life.

    • January 22, 2018 / 8:32 AM

      That is so true. I strongly agree that the key to success begins with believing that you can.

  34. Jay Colby
    January 21, 2018 / 12:34 AM

    These are all great life lessons we need to learn. I resonate with riding ourselves of toxic people that was a challenge for me, but something I had to learn to do.

    • January 22, 2018 / 8:30 AM

      Thank you so much. Once I learned each lesson, my life slowly began to improve and is still improving today.

  35. Laurence
    January 21, 2018 / 10:16 AM

    Great post! still working on believing in myself. But I traveled alone not just once but four times. and got rid of the people who have negative vibes. Love it!

    • January 22, 2018 / 8:24 AM

      Congratulations on all your accomplishments! I really enjoy reading such positive comments.

  36. January 21, 2018 / 12:34 PM

    Finding your purpose in life is one of the most important things on can do in life, otherwise we are wasting time. Traveling is a past time that I really need to do at least once by myself. Thanks for the tips.

  37. January 21, 2018 / 3:01 PM

    Great tips. Distancing oneself from toxic people is probably the most important and most difficult.

    • January 22, 2018 / 8:17 AM

      Yes it can be very difficult but it is truly worth it.

  38. January 21, 2018 / 5:33 PM

    Great post! I agree with us and think we need to here it more often.

  39. January 22, 2018 / 1:32 AM

    These are so good! I would love to travel solo, but I am even uncomfortable eating solo in a restaurant! Something I need to work on.

    • January 22, 2018 / 8:14 AM

      It took me a while to become comfortable with the idea so I understand. The great thing is that you meet so many remarkable people when travelling.

  40. January 22, 2018 / 5:12 AM

    Such a great list! I am really working more on developing my own interests. I guess you could say that this past year has been one of trying to find myself, and appreciating all of the things that make me unique. Also love the tip about traveling solo at least once. I havent done that yet, but I plan to do this year!

    Amber S. | http://www.thesuburbansocialite.com

    • January 22, 2018 / 8:13 AM

      I am loving all you’re doing to mature as a person and as an adult. It is so encouraging to see all of this. Trust me girl, once you travel solo you’ll learn so much more about yourself and what you’re capable of. 🙂

  41. January 22, 2018 / 5:45 AM

    Realising you need to rid of toxic people in your life is a real turning point. It made a real difference to me when I got rid of them, I became much happier!

    • January 22, 2018 / 8:10 AM

      That is so good to hear. Toxic people can really drain you of everything you have both physically and mentally.

  42. January 22, 2018 / 8:10 AM

    These are great life lessons. I need to travel solo at least once.

  43. Cassie S
    January 22, 2018 / 10:17 AM

    I am working on believing in myself more and more each day. This is very important when trying to pursue a career as a blogger. I would also love to travel solo once. I am sure it’s a great growing experience! Thanks for sharing this xx

    • January 22, 2018 / 11:24 AM

      Congratulations on deciding to join the world of blogging! I am happy you are working on believing in yourself!

  44. January 22, 2018 / 12:08 PM

    Getting rid of toxic people in your life is essential for growth. You just never know who might be holding you back from achieving your full potential.

    • January 23, 2018 / 11:26 AM

      That is so true. I learned that the hard way but am glad I did.

  45. January 22, 2018 / 1:38 PM

    Solo traveling for last three years has taught me that unexpected is always the best and you must be ready for it.

    • January 23, 2018 / 11:25 AM

      Yes. I definitely learned that I should expect the unexpected and be ready to act when they occur.

  46. January 23, 2018 / 12:39 AM

    This will sound crazy but I love traveling solo more than traveling with anyone. That way, I can see sights and do things on my slow pace (back pain). I’m going to use all of your tips to turn my year around.

    • January 23, 2018 / 11:18 AM

      That is fanatstic. I know you can attest that travelling solo has so many benefits. Have great year and I hope you get to travel some more 🙂

  47. January 23, 2018 / 1:21 AM

    This was such an empowering article to read on a Monday morning 🙂
    I am happy to say that with your post, I am on the right track. Still lots to learn and grow from and I certainly need to get over my fear of travelling alone.

    • January 23, 2018 / 11:17 AM

      Thank you so much for reading and commenting. I am so happy to hear that you have learned many of these important lessons and continue to learn everyday. I do too.

  48. January 23, 2018 / 2:26 AM

    This post made my day. I needed this read. I must plan a trip alone real soon….excellent advice.

    • January 23, 2018 / 11:13 AM

      Thank you so much. Have fun when you do go on that trip!

  49. Holly B
    January 23, 2018 / 2:43 AM

    Really great advice! I’ve been working on a few of these already and it has made a huge difference. I still have a few more to work on.

    • January 23, 2018 / 11:12 AM

      Glad to hear that you`re on your way. It took a while for me to learn these and I still learn new lessons everyday.

  50. January 23, 2018 / 3:22 AM

    I have not travelled anywhere myself but yes I do believe in being myself where ever I go ☺️👍🏻

    • January 23, 2018 / 11:11 AM

      You should definitely try to travel solo. It is such an amazing experience.

  51. January 23, 2018 / 8:11 AM

    I travel a lot but have yet to travel solo. It’s definitely something I’m interested in doing soon.

    • January 23, 2018 / 11:01 AM

      You will fall in love wit travelling all over again. Travelling solo really puts your mind in a completely different space. It`s great!

  52. January 23, 2018 / 8:52 PM

    I love this post so inspiring and believing in myself is a change I certainly need to make this year

  53. January 23, 2018 / 11:47 PM

    i’ve only done 3 out of the 5 you mentioned. I wish to travel solo and find my purpose.

    • January 24, 2018 / 3:13 PM

      That is wonderful. I wish you the best and know you’ll have a great time travelling solo.

  54. January 24, 2018 / 12:57 PM

    Ridding myself of toxic people is number one on my list. It’s crazy how much stress melts away when you do it.

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