When I was younger I always thought that I should expect the worst from every situation. That way if anything ever DID happen then my heart and mind would have already been ready for the blow black. Are you somewhat like that? Do you tend to have a negative outlook on life? Does it always seem like you are never in a good state of mind? If so, it’s okay. In this post I will give you my methods for how to completely change your mindset no matter how far gone you think you are.
“As long as you are being positive, you are being productive.”
When was the last time you smiled and it wasn’t for a photograph? Did you know that the more you smile, the more the brain tells the body that you are in fact happier? Smiling can change your outlook on life. It can help you see that, no matter how crazy life is, there is still beauty to be found.
Can you imagine how different your day would be if you could smile through all the circumstances in which you normally frown or pout? When you smile, you tell the world that regardless of what is going on, you will get through it and there will be a happy ending in there.
Always Be Yourself
When I was younger, I discovered that I was one way when I was at school and a completely different person when I was home or around my friends. And you what? It was exhausting. Plus I was constantly unhappy. It is so hard trying to keep up with all the different masks that we tend to wear in life. All these masks make it harder for people to get to know us. This in turn makes it harder for us to form bonds and thus we end up negative, resentful and lonely adults.
Luckily, we don’t have to do this. Be yourself and I mean, be the same you ALL the time. If you are loud and funny, embrace it and don’t worry about what people will think. If you are a quiet church mouse like myself, that’s okay. Introverts have a place in this world too. Once you embrace the real you, your whole life becomes a bit easier and things start looking up.
Learn To Give
To completely change your whole mindset, you need to learn to give instead of always receiving. Today’s society teaches us that we need to take and take and take as much as we can before it’s too late. We also learn that those who give back are just doing it to get recognition. What if that weren’t rue? Is it so hard to believe that giving back can actually benefit you greatly as a human being?
When you learn to give, the focus is taken off of you and put on someone else. You learn how to empathize with others and how to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes, and trust me, many of us need to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes. This helps us to understand how important everyone is. It also helps us to realize that we are not better than anyone else and we are a lot more alike than we’d like to believe.
Don’t Worry/ Stop Worrying
I recently wrote a post about the daily habits of a worry free person and how it really changes your entire life once you stop worrying. If you want to take a look at it, I have included the link here. Worry is robbing and has robbed so many of us of our time, our energy and our lives. Worrying, in a nutshell, ensures that you only focus on the problem and thus you are never really able to find a solution.
When you stop worrying, you become more action-minded. This means that you start seeing the solution and stop focusing on what’s going wrong. Once you start doing this, you start seeing the positives and everything stops looking so bleak and patches of silver lining start peaking through.
Always Look For The Bright Side
This goes hand in hand with my previous point. Stop for a moment and think. What if, I know I sound a bit out there, but what if everyone only focused on the positives in life? What would happen if, during the bad times in our lives, we consistently believed we’d be okay and worked hard to make that happen? Don’t you think that many of the arguments and fighting would decrease?
Is it crazy to imagine a society where leaders hoped for a brighter future and worked together to make it come true instead of fighting over money and power? I hope not. I pray that one day this truly comes to pass. I dream of a world where everyone realizes that looking at the bright side of things, and working together will make the world a better place. Instead of obsessing over the negatives, like how seemingly different we are, focus on the positives and the fact that we are all human beings at the core of it all.
Love Yourself Fiercely
Before you even say, I know. I say this ALOT and you what? What if I do? Too many people in this world go through all of it without ever really knowing what love is. Do you know why? Because they were never taught what love is and they don’t love themselves. Everyday we see on the internet or in magazines these perfect-looking models and athletes. We then proceed to compare every single fault we can find on our bodies to their perfectly plastic or photo-shopped appearance.
We need to stop this. Did you know that you were beautifully and uniquely created? Do you understand how much thought was put into perfectly shaping your ears, your neck and even the dark spot on the back of your elbows? I had to check myself today because I saw these models with big boobs and looked at mine as though they were non-existent. I went as far as to look at the prices for plastic surgery to see if I could improve them.
As I was writing this post, however, God remind me that He doesn’t make mistakes in His creations so why do I feel like I have the authority to question the size of my boobs? Stop trying to find perfection and look inside. The perfect version of yourself is staring at you right now in the mirror.
Step Outside Your Comfort Zone
As human beings we really enjoy playing it safe. We like knowing what is going to happen, how it will happen and when it will happen. For many of us, we would prefer to be prepared instead of having something just jump out at us. This is why so many of us hate surprises That’s fine for the most part. I believe though, that it takes a step outside our comfort zone to really start to discover yourself.
You need to take risks. Head into the unknown and jump into that ocean so you can get your feet wet. Alot of personal growth happens once we start doing things that scare us and trying new things. After all, you never know what you’re made of until you put yourself to the test.
Learn To Forgive
Does it take you like ten years to give up a grudge? When someone hurts you, does your heart break a little bit every single time you see them? After it’s all said and done, do you know how to forgive? Or do you just let that little incident keep boiling inside until you’re ready to let it go?(Probably after the person in question dies). My ex did horrible things to me and I know I endured much more than I should have. For a long time I thought about the him and what had happened, and all that time it just kept making me more and more angry.
I lost one year of my life thinking about that man. A year where I could have been working on myself and getting better instead of having sleepless nights. When you learn to forgive, you free yourself of all the pain and you let it go. You’re not able to move on with your life and forge the path you were meant to with all that weight and baggage holding you back. Is there someone you need to forgive today?
Take Care Of Yourself
You have so many dreams, and you work really hard to fulfill them. That’s great and I understand that. At the end of the day, however, do not to lose yourself in everything. When you lose the essence of who you are, your dreams become chores and the journey becomes even more difficult. This causes us to develop a negative mindset and forget why it is we started the journey in the first place.
Here are a few things you can do in order to take care of yourself:
- Go to the spa or have a spa day at home
- Kick back, put your feet up and relax for a day
- Stay hydrated
- Treat yourself once a month
- Get a good night’s sleep every night
- Don’t overwork yourself
When you take care of yourself, you’ll realize you start smiling more. You start enjoying the work and the goal becomes that much more clear.
Life is all about change. Every second, every minute, the world around is changing. Believe it or not, you are also changing. Many of us are afraid of change because we like things to work a certain way. If, for ten years, you wake up to a hot breakfast on the table at the same time and in the same place, then tomorrow when you wake up, you would expect it to there waiting on you. What would you do if you woke up and the breakfast wasn’t there? Would you start panicking or would you just go with the flow?
When you learn to go with the flow, life becomes easier to handle as you no longer are surprised by situations that occur. It teaches you to be resourceful and creative when a new condition arises. You’re no longer frazzled when something new is put before you. In fact you start enjoying the idea that what lies ahead could be great or scary, or both.
I could go on and on about all the many different things you can do in order to completely change your mindset but I think I’ll stop here for now. What I will add though is that the first step in the process begins with you recognizing that something is wrong and you need to fix it.
Once you have that part down, you can refer back to this post, as well as make a list of other ways you can think of to help you completely change your mindset. If you happen to think of anymore I’d love to hear about them.
So there you have it. A few deliberate ways you can completely change your mindset. My last posts are linked below. Be sure to check them out as well:
Also, let me know. Do you think you have a positive mindset? If so, what are some ways you ensure that you remain on the path of positivity ? Did any of them make the list? Please comment below. Please also like and share this post, as well as support me on all my social media.
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