Dealing With Grief And Loss Of A Loved One

The bible says that it is appointed for everyone to be born and for everyone to die. While this is true, dealing with grief and loss after a loved one can be a difficult situation. This is my story of how I dealt with the loss of someone very dear to me.

“One day, when the pages of my life are over, I know you will be one of its most extraordinary chapters.” Unknown

Dear Death

Dealing With Grief And Loss- Dear Death

Dear Death

Dear death, sometimes I wonder if you are a bad person. Sometimes I wonder why you choose the ones you do. SometimesI wish you never existed. Do you sit behind a desk staring at the list of the living, and once you get bored, do you delete a name? Have you any idea what it’s like to lose someone you love? Sometimes, I wish you did.

Last November, I lost someone very close to me; my aunt. But I only lost an aunt, my mom lost her other half. It’s hard enough for anyone to see a friend or family member die, but what must it feel like to lose your twin sister? The pain. The denial. The whole thought process is something I would never want to experience. Why her? Why not me? How do I go on with my life, when half of me has died?

Over the past two years, I‘ve also lost uncles, cousins and my grandpa, and honestly, sometimes I am not too sure how much more I can endure. It almost feels like a part of my heart gets ripped away each time the phone rings, and I hear “the pause. How do you prepare yourself for that kind of news? Is there some kind of magic potion that will make it all better? No, there isn’t. Death is just as much a part of life, as birth is, and that’s something we all need to acknowledge.

 

In The Blink Of An Eye

Dealing With Grief And Loss- In The Blink Of An Eye

My Aunt (the last time I saw her), My Uncle And My Mom

It’s astounding how abruptly life can change. One minute you‘re sitting down, sipping some coffee, and catching up on the latest episode of “This Is Us,” and the next minuteyou‘re in the ICU wondering how you never saw this kidney transplant coming. 

Many people believe that they are impenetrable; the man or woman of steel, and so they waste their lives doing things, which at the end of the day, do not make them happy. Life is a precious gift. It is not something to be meddled with. It is not something to be wasted. I know if my aunt were alive today she’d tell you the same thing. You need to live your present life to the fullest, and make the best out of each and every experience.

I loved her outlook on life. Whether in sickness, or in health, she always wore a smile, and she never hesitated to leave you with a kind word and a prayer.Im really grateful that I was able to see her one last time before she died. I will forever remember the look on her face, and the happiness in her voice as we talked and laughed so freely. Those memories are the ones that keep me going each day. Whenever I‘m feeling down, or if I feel like I can’t go on, I remember how bravely my aunt fought to the end.

 

My Promise

Dealing With Grief And Loss- My Promise

My Promise

One day, I look forward to seeing her again. I look forward to catching up, and telling her about my misadventures, just to make her laugh one more time. For now though, I will live my life as best I can. I will set goals and accomplish them. Maybe I will reach for the stars, and hopefully land on a cloud. I will be happy. When I grow up, I know I want to be just like her. Because if I can be even half the person she ever was, then the future already looks brighter.

 


**To everyone who has lost a love one, I give you a virtual hug and a prayer. May you find peace in dealing with grief and loss, and may your loved ones rest in peace. Don’t waste any of the moments you have been given. The best way you can honour them, and their memory is to live for every heartbeat, every footprint, and every moment that takes your breath away. Bless!

 

I’ve also included more information for dealing with grief and loss below:

Grief: Coping With The Loss Of Your Loved One

Coping With Loss: Bereavement And Grief

 

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Comments (29)

  • theyoopermom 3 months ago Reply

    This has me in tears. I’m so sorry for your loss!

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 months ago Reply

    Thank you so much.

  • therunaway 3 months ago Reply

    Very insightful post. Thank you for sharing. Indeed, we should learn to live 100%, as it was our last day, as it in fact may be.
    All the best for you and your family!

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 months ago Reply

    Thank you for your kind words and I hope you make the best of every moment you have. 😊

  • Roamy Link 3 months ago Reply

    I can not even begin to put in words how your post made me feel.I feel like we know each other, like you are an old friend sitting next to me on the sofa.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 months ago Reply

    Awe that is just too sweet. I am so glad you liked the post. Virtual hug 😊

  • I feel very fortunate that I have never experienced close, personal loss *knock on all the wood*

    I have had close encounters and they are so scary. You’re right, one day you’re laughing together enjoying life, next day nothing. That’s a sobering thought.

    Sending you all the hugs as you cherish the memories of your loved ones.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 months ago Reply

    Thank you so much. I’m just now realizing that I just need to go for it so I have no regrets later on

  • yahoo2me 3 months ago Reply

    Death is a hard reality of life and words are never enough to console someone who suffers that loss. Having said that your attempt to help someone reconcile with it is appreciable.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 months ago Reply

    Thank you hun. I know I can never fully console someone but I think a few kind words go a long way😊

  • Umesh 3 months ago Reply

    Such an incredible post, Thanks for sharing, yes it’s true, Death! is a hard part of life,
    I’m so sorry for your loss!
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    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 months ago Reply

    Thank you so much

  • Freddy 3 months ago Reply

    I’m so sorry for your loss. I feel like I am lucky, having lost only so few people in my life. Though, it might be good to keep in mind that death itself is not a bad person. Death is merely the guide God sends to us, to take us home.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 months ago Reply

    I never really thought about death being a guide. That’s such an interesting interpretation

  • neti22 3 months ago Reply

    Its not easy to cope with the loss of loved one and this will to will pass. Later on you will be able to be thankful for the great memories. I have so many great memories to cherish and so will you.
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    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 months ago Reply

    Your kind words are much appreciated. Yes death is just as important a part as birth is. Thank you

  • Sorry for your losses, but it’s great that you have found some inspiration & lessons through them. This brings me to recite of 1 of my favourite quotes: “Today is a gift, live accordingly” .

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 months ago Reply

    Wow thank you. I love that quote and will embrace life as best I can🙂

  • raisinghumanbeans 3 months ago Reply

    As I am going through a miscarriage today, I very much appreciate this. Not to be too religious but I like to think of it this way… How often do we blame God for taking someone from us, when he watched his own son suffer for our sins and die? They both understand!

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 months ago Reply

    Wow this is such a deep comment. I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine the pain you must be feeling. I believe everything that happens can lead to other good things happening in our life, and I can only pray that your future is blessed with happiness.

  • Denise Smith 3 months ago Reply

    I am sorry you had to go through all that loss in this lifetime, I hope you get to a place where you can find comfort in the memories you shared. much love your way.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 months ago Reply

    Thank you so much sweetie. I appreciate the kind words. 😊😊

  • Harpreet Acharya 3 months ago Reply

    I lost my Dad in 2015 and I lost a part of me too. It has been so hard but somehow God gives me the strength to dress up and show up. So sorry for your loss. I suppose the one thing losing a loved one teaches you is how to live xxx

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 months ago Reply

    I’m so sorry about your dad. I hope you find peace. Yes losing people around me has taught me to take no moment for granted because you just never know…

  • teaaddictsanonymous 3 months ago Reply

    So sorry for you loss. Your views on death are interesting as i have an entirely different take on it.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 months ago Reply

    Thank you. I’d love to hear your views

    teaaddictsanonymous 3 months ago

    My opinion is quite unpopular to be truthful. I️ am never sad over a death because i firmly believe in a God and in eternal life. I️ know that the person who died is either in heaven or hell. They are free of their earthly confines and are taking part in a life that they have cut out for themselves, rather than this life where we don’t determine our circumstances. I️ see death as a relief more than anything. The person no long must suffer from their earthly ailments

  • Ann 3 months ago Reply

    Sending you love and hugs in this difficult times. Tho we would all be there, experiencing it first hand is devastating.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 months ago Reply

    Thank you for the love and the hugs. I truly appreciate them all. Bless!

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