Dealing With Breakups: The Expert’s Guide To Help You Now

Dealing With Breakups: The Expert’s Guide To Help You Now

Dealing with breakups is never an easy thing. Hearts are broken, promises are forgotten, and at times, you see the worst sides of the person you once loved or still love. After a breakup, it can be difficult trying to figure out what to do, who to go to and where to turn. The emotions can cloud your judgement and healing your broken heart might seem impossible. It doesn’t have to be. A few years ago, I went through a very difficult breakup myself and the tips I will discuss below not only helped me to move on but rebuilt the shattered pieces of my broken heart one by one.

“Respect yourself enough to walk away from anyone or anything that no longer serves you, grows you or makes you happy.”

THE EXPERT’S GUIDE TO DEALING WITH BREAKUPS

1 GIVE YOURSELF A MAKEOVER

After a fresh breakup, you might be feeling very out of it. Your mind is cluttered, your eyes are puffy from crying and your self-esteem might be at an all-time low.

A great way to get passed those yucky feelings is to give yourself a subtle makeover. Not only is this a fantastic way to lift yourself out of a breakup funk, it is a wonderful way to practice self-care.

Self-care is especially important because dealing with breakups can reveal the more vulnerable sides of us.

When I went through my breakup a while back, I felt ugly and completed dejected. Practising self-care literally saved my life.

Not only did I give myself a makeover physically, I gave myself an emotional makeover. I learned how to use the power of self-affirmations, and little by little, I rebuilt the self-esteem I had lost throughout the relationship.

 

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For many people, after someone breaks their heart, they want to completely change who they are, the clothes they wear and the colour of their hair. You don’t need to do this.

Just because someone else didn’t see the value you provided doesn’t mean that you aren’t an amazing person. It’s time to stop thinking negatively about yourself and start seeing the beautiful person behind the tears.

Physical makeovers can be amazing and temporarily make us happy, but the best makeovers are those of the heart. Those makeovers that make you not want to change who you are, but embrace who you are even more.

Take the time you need to rediscover all the things you love about yourself and remind yourself of just how amazing you are breakup or no breakup.

 

2 DISCOVER A NEW HOBBY

After a really bad breakup, it can be difficult getting excited about the things you loved or wanted to try before you broke up. As hard as this might be, it’s time to invest in an activity that makes you feel good.

I have spoken to tons of men and women who have been through terrible ordeals with exes, and a large number of them have stated that hobbies such as writing, collecting, photography and painting have helped them to heal.

Make time to nurture yourself by nurturing your interests.

Every single day, do something that makes you smile and your heart sing. Click To Tweet

 

Taking the opportunity to explore new interests and activities, I no longer felt burdened or low. (I even discovered that I’m pretty handy with a sewing machine and needle 🙂 ). The more I designed clothing and used my sewing machine, the happier I became.

At first, you might need to slow down and get your thoughts together. Pretty soon you’ll find that keeping yourself occupied prevents you from dwelling on negative thoughts and emotions.

Fill your day with fun, interesting activities outside of work. Go dancing, get into art and crafts, consider bullet journaling or even practice yoga.

Getting over a breakup takes time, but if you spend your time focusing on things that bring you happiness and joy, you’ll not only heal from the relationship, you’ll become an even better version of yourself.

 

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3 BLOCK THEM

Your broken heart will not be able to heal if you constantly see your ex on social media. So I honestly recommend blocking them and removing them from your phone and any other accounts.

If you were friends on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter, go through each of these accounts one by one, delete and/or block them.

Having them in your social media contacts only serves as a constant reminder of something that didn’t work out.

If you want to start fresh and your desire is to move on with your life then you need to remove those reminders from your immediate vision.

 

The truth is unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward. Click To Tweet

 

When I broke up with my boyfriend not only did I block him everywhere, I stayed away from social media for about three to five days and spent the time developing new habits.

It gave me the chance to clear my thoughts, focus on something else and most importantly, it prevented me from posting in anger.

You must remember, that in an attempt to hurt your ex or in an attempt to vent, you might post something bad on social media.

Whatever you post online stays online, so step away from the laptop, put the cell phone down and concentrate on you. You are what’s most important right now.

 

4 DON’T OBSESS OVER YOUR EX

Have you ever studied for a math test and did everything you possibly could to pass, only to end up failing? It hurt you so much you spend days, even weeks, trying to figure out where you went wrong.

You might even attempt to recreate the scenario in your mind in an attempt to figure out any clues you might have missed. Relationships are the same way.

Dealing with breakups can be hard and after a breakup, we often spend days, weeks or months obsessing over where we went wrong and what we could have done to prevent the breakup.

Often times we blame ourselves when, honestly, we really tried our best.

I’m sorry to have to tell you this, but it takes two willing persons for a relationship to work.

You can’t expect one person to be pulling all the weight and have success. Sometimes, no matter what you do, people still leave. You cannot hold onto someone who wants to move on with their life.

If they don’t want to stay let them go and stop obsessing over them. Live your life because it does go on.

 

5 FOCUS ON POSITIVE THINGS

One of the best things that helped me when I was trying to heal from my broken relationship was finding positive and supportive friends to be around.

These wonderful people allowed me to vent for exactly one or two weeks. I could say whatever I wanted. They allowed me to yell and scream and cry.

After the allotted time was up, it was their turn to cheer me up and help me to move on. My friends helped me to see that I was so much more than just a girlfriend, I was Dee.

I was a beautiful, talented and amazing young woman who had a lot more to offer the world than self-pity.

 

You need that one friend who will not only let you cry on their shoulder but are not afraid to whip you back into shape after you do. Click To Tweet

 

Do you have a bunch of girlfriends or just one great girlfriend or guy friend you can trust? Spend some time together. I can guarantee that they will help to pull out of the slump.

They will help you to laugh again and find that amazing person hidden behind all the tears and grief.

Take the time you need to spend with those who love and who will never judge you. Be honest about your feelings and allow them to help you get passed them.

 

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6 GET YOUR OWN PLACE

Dealing with a breakup can be hard enough when you are by yourself, if you are still living with the person, this will amplify the situation that much more. Move out.

Find a place that you can call your own. Get yourself an apartment or a flat and move all your stuff if you shared a space with your ex.

If you are unable to afford a new place at the moment or just not ready, call your mom or a close friend and crash with them.

Do everything you can to remove yourself from what can be, a very toxic situation.

An even more “extreme” version of moving out is to relocate completely. This can mean moving to a new city, or in my case, moving to a new country.

The term “out of sight, out of one’s mind” is very accurate.

When I moved to Japan, it helped me to heal that much faster because I was away from every single thing that reminded me of my past situation.

I was in a new environment where no-one knew me, and thus no-one knew what had happened. I could truly start over free from judgement and free from the weight I carried knowing my ex was always nearby.

 

7 LET IT GO

I am almost certain that every man, woman and child has seen the movie “Frozen” which is great. I bring it up because there is a song that Else sings which is called “Let It Go.”

I love the words of this song because it truly explains what I want to tell you right now.

It will get better in time, and I don’t want you to spend the rest of your life miserable because you held unto everything from your past relationship. Let it go.

 

Live fully. Love deeply. Let go with no bitterness or regret. Click To Tweet

 

You need to let go of all the pain, frustration and every single negative aspect of that relationship. Dealing with breakups is hard enough without you carrying all that extra weight around.

You might be feeling bitter because of something that happened in your past relationships, or you might be feeling regret for time wasted.

Regret is the biggest waste of time. Take note of the lessons you learned about the entire experience, forgive them and yourself, and let it all go.

Focus on your new journey ahead and forgive them because it releases you.

 

EMBRACE YOUR NEW LIFE

You’re now single. Welcome to this amazing new chapter in your life. This is the time where you’ll learn many things about yourself that you probably hadn’t known before.

If you want to properly deal with a breakup then you need to understand that being alone is not a bad thing. In fact, you can find fulfilment and joy in the midst of your solitude.

Embrace your single life. Grab a pair of your favourite pyjamas and put your hair up in a messy bun. Smile because you no longer need anyone’s approval to relax and let your hair down.

Understand hat you are fierce and you don’t need a man or a woman to complete you because it’s true.

Many of us spend our lives in relationships and never get the chance to discover ourselves the way we’re meant to.

Understand that everything happens for a reason, and take this time to grow and become a better version of yourself.


If you enjoyed this post about how you should be dealing with breakups, be sure to check out these tips on having successful relationships and the ten questions to ask before dating.

 

Also, let me know. Have you recently broken up with someone? How do you handle it? I love reading your comments so please comment down below and let me know your thoughts. Please also like and share this post. I’d really appreciate your support on all my social media as well.

 

Until next time. Peace, love and prayers.

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  1. Jessica T
    February 19, 2018 / 12:38 PM

    When I was younger breakups were so much easier when you had your best friends around and we would usually go out for a girls night and it made all the messiness of a break up easier to take. Great tips!

    • February 20, 2018 / 9:45 AM

      Thank you so much! Hanging out with girlfriends is a great idea

  2. Kiwi
    February 19, 2018 / 4:25 PM

    Breakups sucks to be quiet frank. Sometimes you have to get away from them via social media because following them can be triggering it sucks but it helps.

    • February 20, 2018 / 8:50 AM

      Ye that is exactly it. Social media can be a big trigger so it is better to take a break.

  3. Joanna
    February 19, 2018 / 5:19 PM

    Breaking ups are never easy and almost never the relationship continues as friends. Trying to focus on your own life after a breakup is very important, and cutting off any contact with the ex necessary.

    • February 20, 2018 / 8:17 AM

      Yes this is true. I do a few exes who did end up becoming friends eventually.

  4. February 20, 2018 / 5:22 AM

    I love these tips. Breakups are never easy, but it’s so important to move on and keep living your life.

  5. February 20, 2018 / 5:47 AM

    this was some really awesome advice! i know it is really hard when you go through a breakup even if you are the one doing the breaking!

    • February 20, 2018 / 8:05 AM

      Thank you so much. It can be hard on both parties. i totally get that

  6. February 20, 2018 / 6:31 AM

    It’s funny after my last break up, I ended up moving a couple months after, something I was planning on doing, just sped up my move. I also did get a makeover, I cut my hair short and also learned to just realize that this was a new adventure one that I should be happy to be in.!

    • February 20, 2018 / 8:04 AM

      That is so great! Congrats on your move and haircut!!

  7. February 20, 2018 / 6:58 AM

    To say that breakups are hard is an understatement. I even got a tattoo at one point in my life after a breakup and he wasn’t even worth all that pain! 🤣 (I can only laugh at my stupidity now) … we have different ways of coping and everything you listed here is true! Another thing that helped me get through my past breakups was just knowing and claiming that it will all pass and I’ll get through the storm.

    • February 20, 2018 / 8:03 AM

      Oh no re that tattoo. Sometimes we do silly things when we go through breakups but it’s good that you learned your lesson.

  8. February 20, 2018 / 7:42 AM

    Breakups are hard, but it’s important to remind yourself you are of value.

  9. February 20, 2018 / 7:56 AM

    These are some great tips you are so right that breakups can be hard, I couldn’t imagine breaking from my other half the idea really scares me.

    • February 20, 2018 / 8:02 AM

      Ohh it can definitely be hard and I completely understand the fear. Just know that if it ever were to happen, God forbid, you would be okay

  10. February 20, 2018 / 8:10 AM

    I agree with so many of these points!! I feel like so many people get makeovers after breakups but I felt so much more liberated getting to wear the sweater he didn’t like or the shoes he hated. I LOVED the point about taking a break from social media for a few days (I’ll admit I didn’t block my ex just because I needed to learn self control and learn how to let it go rather than creep on him) because ranting on social media or airing your dirty laundry on social media isn’t cute and attracts the wrong kind of attention during a breakup.

    • February 20, 2018 / 9:39 AM

      That is so good to hear. I chose to take a break because I know how emotional I can be but am so glad you learned self control!! Good for you!!

  11. February 20, 2018 / 10:37 AM

    It seems like everyone is breaking up at this time of year! I have never had to deal with a breakup, but my friends are always going through them and I have no advice! Thanks for these tips

  12. Jay Colby
    February 20, 2018 / 1:08 PM

    You made some great points! Breakups can be tough especially when you’re deeply in love with someone.

  13. February 20, 2018 / 2:21 PM

    I guess this is one good thing about being single for so long.. I don’t have to worry about break ups.

  14. February 20, 2018 / 2:22 PM

    I’m a bit lucky for not having to go through breakup. I only had one boyfriend (for 12 years) and we eventually got married. It was my youngest sister who I witnessed going through 2 breakups but she was able to handle both very well.

    • February 24, 2018 / 4:50 PM

      Your sister sounds like a very strong woman

  15. February 20, 2018 / 5:36 PM

    I really do like the ideas here. You have such great ideas here. I think the two main things which have worked for me are blocking them so i cannot keep looking at their social media. Because keeping up with their social media is problematic. And secondly, doing things to find yourself apart from your partner is an imperative.

    • February 23, 2018 / 6:49 PM

      Thank you so much. I think blocking he source of the pain prevents us from retaliating

  16. February 20, 2018 / 6:20 PM

    Wow…great points. I have, as many others, had a share of them and they never get easier. Whether you are the initiator or the recipient, breaking up is horrible. I do know I never want to go through another one…so fingers crossed.

    • February 23, 2018 / 6:54 PM

      Unfortunately breakups are hard but life does go on and you will be just fine. You need to believe that 🙂

  17. Angela Ricardo Bethea
    February 20, 2018 / 7:07 PM

    these are some great advice for dealing with breakups. I think I need to share this with my cousin, she really needs this advice.

    • February 23, 2018 / 6:23 PM

      That would be awesome. Feel free to share this with her and others

  18. Annreeba
    February 20, 2018 / 8:36 PM

    These are some great tips for surviving the breakup. Hanging out with friends is a cool idea! Thanks for sharing this.

  19. Rosey
    February 20, 2018 / 8:45 PM

    My oldest has been broken up for a bit now, but he’s still feeling the effects. The reprecussions of can be solid and long lasting.

  20. February 20, 2018 / 9:24 PM

    I needed these comments when I was younger! I had to figure out that its the end of a relationship, not the end of the world! Thanks for sharing, I bet a lot of people find this super helpful.

  21. February 20, 2018 / 9:47 PM

    Such practical tips. I wish I had these at hand in the moments I needed them.

  22. February 20, 2018 / 10:53 PM

    Breakups can be hard. This are great tips. Having a great support system works great.

  23. February 20, 2018 / 11:04 PM

    Ah the worst breakup is when it was a long term relationship, you’re on good terms mutually but finally accepted after months to years of trying that the spark is gone and you weren’t really fit or meant for each other. Nonetheless, these tips still apply and self care is the main thing getting me through. Healing isn’t linear but it does get better 🙂 thank God for those friends who don’t allow you to cry for too long either!

    • February 24, 2018 / 4:57 PM

      Yes I really appreciate those friends who helped me realise I’m so much more than just a girlfriend

  24. February 20, 2018 / 11:29 PM

    Wow I wish I had these tips years ago!

  25. February 20, 2018 / 11:34 PM

    Hobbies and blocking – yep! Out of sight, out of mind!!! That phrase is the real deal! And honestly, if it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be! Everything happens for a reason and people going through such issues need to realize that there is a reason as to why this happened and something GOOD will come out of it.

    • February 23, 2018 / 7:01 PM

      Yes I definitely agree that the whole out of sight out of mind thing does really work

  26. February 21, 2018 / 12:33 AM

    I always get a new makeover after a bad breakup! There is nothing better than feeling like a new person!

  27. Latasha
    February 21, 2018 / 12:36 AM

    Awesome tips! Getting out and being productive is so important for healing. 🙂

    • February 24, 2018 / 4:56 PM

      It really is so important for your own well-being

  28. February 21, 2018 / 12:51 AM

    As I read your post, the vreak-up song “Knowing me, knowing you” from ABBA kept playing in my head; about how breaking up is sometimes the best that can be done. I personally haven’t been in a relationship yet, but I have witnessed enough of them turning out to be a failure to agree with all of your points. Once it’s over, you have to let it go, and take advantage of your newly found singleness.

    • February 23, 2018 / 6:53 PM

      That is very true. You really have to know who you are!!

  29. February 21, 2018 / 12:53 AM

    I wish I had read this a few months earlier. Would have proved a lot helpful.
    Anyhow these are some nice tips.

  30. February 21, 2018 / 1:53 AM

    Break ups can definitely be very hard and tormenting. I agree that finding a hobby you love is a great way to keep yourself occupied and your mind off of it.

    • February 24, 2018 / 4:55 PM

      Hobbies are just great ways to keep tour mind occupied

  31. February 21, 2018 / 4:24 AM

    It’s always hard to think of break-ups as a new beginning etc. so this would be a great read for anyone whose going through it! Great advice:)

  32. February 21, 2018 / 4:26 AM

    Damn this hit so close to home after my recent breakup. I really liked this tips, especially the last one, it truly shows that break-ups aren’t all bad. Only thing I couldn’t and wouldn’t want to do is block my ex on social media. He was my best friend before we ended up together and that wouldn’t feel right at all.

    • February 23, 2018 / 6:32 PM

      I think that one tip is negotiable depending on your part. I guess it is really up to you

  33. February 21, 2018 / 4:29 AM

    This is true, break ups are very hard! I always like to take up running after a break up – get all my feelings out

    • February 24, 2018 / 4:55 PM

      Wow. I never thought of running. Great idea!

  34. February 21, 2018 / 4:46 AM

    Breakup is hard and heartbreaking. I agree with on some of your pointers like doing a makeover, let it go and move on. It’s hard but workable. Time heals all pain.

    • February 24, 2018 / 4:54 PM

      Yes we need to understand that life goes on without them

  35. February 21, 2018 / 5:44 AM

    It can be hard to move forward, but embracing your new life and the new you is a great strategy. I can only imagine that this social media-heavy world we live in makes it more challenging. Blocking them is a great idea.

    • February 24, 2018 / 4:54 PM

      I truly believe it does. Sometimes you just need to step away from the screen

  36. February 21, 2018 / 5:59 AM

    Embrace the new life of being single again, I g7ess that summarizes all. Its hard I know but time heals. I agree of all the points you have in this post.

    • February 24, 2018 / 4:53 PM

      Time I believe above everything does heal all

  37. February 21, 2018 / 6:23 AM

    These are great tips. I agree with them all. I agree with you that breakups are hard, but we do get over it.

    • February 24, 2018 / 4:53 PM

      Very true. We are so much stronger than we think

  38. February 21, 2018 / 7:25 AM

    This is a really nice post. Some people really struggle with breakups.

  39. February 21, 2018 / 7:27 AM

    I have had my fair share of breakups. I wish I knew this stuff when I was a little younger!

    • February 24, 2018 / 4:52 PM

      I wish I did too. It would have prevented so much

  40. February 21, 2018 / 8:16 AM

    I love all of these! For me hanging on to family, friends, getting a makeover, and making myself feel good with things I loved did the trick. I love your advice and so much of it I would use if I am in that situation again!

  41. February 21, 2018 / 8:31 AM

    Someone told me when I was going through a rough break up to block my ex. At the time I thought it was so crazy but you know what it worked. It took about a year for us to become friends without any harsh feelings.

    • February 24, 2018 / 4:52 PM

      Trust me. Blocking my ex really helped me to heal from the pain

  42. February 21, 2018 / 8:53 AM

    This is also why it’s important to love yourself, so you know your value and you won’t break apart when you break up with someone. It’s not easy but the main goal is to focus on yourself first so you can move on. Love your guide!

  43. February 21, 2018 / 9:25 AM

    Honestly, removing my ex off of my FB, was super important. Otherwise, I was devoting my energy where I didn’t need to be and only upsetting myself further. And finding a hobby and something to do with your time, really helps too. It takes your mind off of constantly analyzing and thinking about what was.

    • February 24, 2018 / 4:51 PM

      Out of sight out of mind is the real deal. Glad that you got through it

  44. February 21, 2018 / 10:05 AM

    I been into break up and it’s really painful. It took me 2 years before finally letting go. “Blocking” your ex is the best. Block everyone that reminds you of him. Painful but you have to let go!

    • February 24, 2018 / 4:49 PM

      Yea you do. If you want to heal you have to let it ll go

  45. February 21, 2018 / 10:50 AM

    break up is never a good thing when it is fresh but what helped me most is when i think the worst thing the ex had done to me, that just reconfirms that i made a good decision!

    • February 24, 2018 / 4:49 PM

      I agree
      I’d rather be alone than with the wrong person

  46. February 21, 2018 / 10:41 PM

    I had the worst break up of my life last year with my ex-fiancee and to make the pain even more stronger, I got into relationship with fuckboys because I thought I could divert myself but it only made it worst. I suffered the lowest self esteem and so depressed. Good thing I found God. All your advises are true. I hope I did that instead of going on short lived relationship with wrong people.

    • February 23, 2018 / 10:36 AM

      Yeah I completely understand that. I made that same mistake and that is one of the reasons I put this list together. Thanks fo sharing your story.

  47. Khushboo
    February 21, 2018 / 10:55 PM

    I know he it feels after break up.. Those are some good tips to overcome breakups soon..

  48. Chris Wong
    February 21, 2018 / 11:04 PM

    Great break-up advice!

    In the past, I’ve definitely taken up a hobby to distract me from heart ache. It’s usually sport related.

    • February 23, 2018 / 10:29 AM

      Thank you so much. Hobbies are so helpful!

  49. Angela Ricardo Bethea
    February 21, 2018 / 11:41 PM

    Dealing with a heartbreak is so hard. and you’ve shared some good advice here.

  50. Bobbi
    February 22, 2018 / 2:53 AM

    This is such great advice. Breakups can be so tough but they can really let you have the time to get to know yourself again.

    • February 23, 2018 / 9:17 AM

      Yes they can really be a time to get to know the person you never knew you were

  51. February 22, 2018 / 4:22 AM

    Nice post. I had a really bad break up once and he loved my long red hair so next day I went to the salon and chopped it all off. Felt so good.

    • February 23, 2018 / 9:16 AM

      Oh wow! What a change that must have been for you!

  52. February 22, 2018 / 5:13 AM

    I remember doing majority of these things when I went through breakups.

  53. February 22, 2018 / 6:18 AM

    Your advice is amazing! those are great things you can do and my favorite ir the first one, do a makeup, it’s so important to take care of ourselves and maybe change and try whatever we always wanted to do, any new look that could give us more confidence!

    • February 23, 2018 / 7:01 AM

      Thank you. I truly appreciate your support. I think self love helps everyone

  54. February 22, 2018 / 8:07 AM

    Great advice. I can totally relate to finding a hobby. I found the gym after my last breakup. It was the best thing to help me get the tough times.

    • February 23, 2018 / 7:00 AM

      That is fantastic. I picked up blogging and haven’t looked back

  55. February 22, 2018 / 8:21 AM

    These are great tips! I haven’t been through a really tough romantic break-up but these are great when you have a friendship “break-up” as well!

    • February 22, 2018 / 3:14 PM

      Thank you so much. I know that breaking up with friends can be very difficult as well

  56. February 22, 2018 / 8:54 AM

    Its not recent, but I haven’t gone through a break-up in a sense of ‘boyfriend-girlfriend’. I went through a break up with friends of mine. It was difficult but it slowly felt better.

    • February 22, 2018 / 1:15 PM

      So sorry to hear about that. I hope you heal from that experience soon.

  57. February 22, 2018 / 12:38 PM

    Your advice is point on. Break ups can be hard if you are not equipped to handle it. Your tips are great.

  58. February 22, 2018 / 1:30 PM

    I have to agree with what everyone else said, break ups are never easy and it’s hard to move on especially if you really liked the person. The tips you gave are great!

    • February 23, 2018 / 6:58 AM

      Thank you. It can be hard but it is so important

  59. February 22, 2018 / 3:53 PM

    I think your point about blocking them and finding a hobby is the best! It definitely helped me with my break up last year 🙂

  60. February 22, 2018 / 4:28 PM

    Break up is not a good news, but moving on is a must. Life is too valuable just for mourning all the way. Let’s face life positively and believe that God’s has a good plan for us in the future..

    • February 23, 2018 / 6:56 AM

      I agree. Everything, whether good or bad, happens for a reason

  61. February 22, 2018 / 5:39 PM

    Thanks for this piece of info!
    I’ve not in a relationship right now but I guess this will help me when I get into one!!!

  62. February 22, 2018 / 7:51 PM

    As a person who tended to not let go after the break up, I have to say the most important thing is in fact that. Let it go!

    • February 23, 2018 / 6:54 AM

      Yes you hold yourself back when you hold on to the pain

  63. February 22, 2018 / 10:13 PM

    I think that even though breakups can be very difficult to go through, it might just be what a person needs. Who knows there might even be a better partner out there who will treat you well.

    • February 23, 2018 / 6:52 AM

      That is very true. I found my breakup to be a great thing for me looking back on it all

  64. February 23, 2018 / 12:15 AM

    Breakups can be tough. These are some really helpful tips for dealing with breakups.

  65. Agentszerozerosetter
    February 23, 2018 / 12:58 AM

    Breaking ups can be difficult to heal, I agree! You wrote a great and helpful guide. Finding the positivity in ourselves helps a lot, to change with the past and start a different life!

    • February 23, 2018 / 6:44 AM

      Awe thank you. Doing these things really helped me so I hoped they’d help others

  66. Ann Snook-Moreau
    February 23, 2018 / 5:42 AM

    Not beating yourself up is so key. Sometimes things just weren’t meant to work out and there is no point in driving yourself crazy trying to figure out why.

    • February 23, 2018 / 6:38 AM

      That is so true. Relationships are work and at times it’s not your fault at all

  67. February 23, 2018 / 7:31 AM

    All of this is so very true. I experience many of these when going through my divorce.

  68. February 23, 2018 / 9:52 AM

    Breakups aren’t easy at all, especially if you were invested a lot into this person. I had the worst breakup ever in my early 20s. To the point where I thought the world was officially over. It’s funny to look back at that time now (I would kick myself for thinking that way) but at the time I was left all alone as his friends group was also my friends group. Thankfully, we move on and when the right person comes around all the breakups make sense 😀
    xox Nadia

    • February 24, 2018 / 4:48 PM

      I love your outlook on that. I think you should take mistakes and breakups as lessons learned

  69. February 23, 2018 / 11:59 AM

    I have to agree with you on finding positivity. There’s always a light at the end of the tunnel, no matter how terrible you feel about the breakup.

  70. February 24, 2018 / 12:48 PM

    Great tips! Let it go always works for me…but I was never good at becoming friend with my ex. I don’t hate them but what I want is just not to connect with them anymore.

  71. Kitty
    February 25, 2018 / 4:19 AM

    I would find positivity and let go of it… I guess the best way to over come is to face through it 😊👍🏼

    • March 3, 2018 / 8:29 PM

      Yes because once you get through it going come out stronger

  72. February 26, 2018 / 12:20 PM

    It is important to count your blessings and focus on the positive. Make new goals and keep yourself busy with good energy.

    • March 2, 2018 / 2:30 PM

      Yes. That is so important and to remember that everything happens for a reason

  73. February 26, 2018 / 3:14 PM

    These are amazing tips and ideas on how to deal with breakups. Most of these worked for me, especially blocking them on social media. This is one of the great ways to move on

  74. February 26, 2018 / 7:58 PM

    Oh break ups are so hard! My hardest was the end of my marriage after 11 years, but I found keeping busy and finding a new hobby was a great way to get through it. I also had a lot of fun with my girlfriends!

    • March 2, 2018 / 2:11 PM

      Oh wow. I am so sorry to hear about the breakup but I am happy to hear that you are getting stronger

  75. February 27, 2018 / 1:30 PM

    Exactly, being alone is not a bad thing. Its important to find happiness on your own.

    • March 1, 2018 / 4:02 PM

      It is very important that we be okay with being alone first before we can be okay being with anyone else

  76. March 1, 2018 / 3:41 AM

    Wow! This list is a lot better list then I honestly expected at first. I love this list actually! You are absolutely right, break-ups are possibly the most difficult thing to do in life. My favorite two things from your list were “block them” and “Get a hobby you love”. You can not get over them if you keep getting texts or calls from them. And, the best way to stop obsessing over them is when you are distracted by some amazing new hobby you can do now that you are free!

    • March 1, 2018 / 7:54 AM

      Thank you so much!! I have tried all of these and can say they really helped me so I knew at least one of them could help someone else.

  77. April 5, 2018 / 7:12 AM

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    • April 5, 2018 / 8:57 AM

      Thank you so much!! I really appreciate the support 🙂

  78. Anna
    July 29, 2018 / 6:44 PM

    I broke up with my boyfriend after 3 years. I’m only seventeen and it was my decision because he was so toxic that I couldn’t handle it anymore, but I can’t stop thinking about him and looking he’s Instagram.

    • August 7, 2018 / 9:53 PM

      I know it can be hard and it might seem hopeless right now but you will get past it. Once you do you’ll realize that staying in that relationship just wasn’t worth it anymore.

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