Are you single? Does it feel like everyone around you is in a relationship? Does it feel like there’s no way that you will EVER be happy? Well, in this post I will show you how to be single AND happy in just 7 easy steps. If you are and single and unhappy, or just single, read on.
“Being single means that you are strong enough to wait for what you deserve.”
1. Learn To Love Yourself
Learning to love yourself can be hard. It is one thing to have someone else tell you they love you or tell you how beautiful you are. It’s a whole other thing for you to believe those words and say them to yourself. I have been single for four years and that means that I have had four long years to really sit down and think on a few things. Earlier this year, I slowly came to realize that I had placed my value in how others felt about me. This meant that I was constantly seeking validation from others.
This is never a good mindset. When you embrace yourself, flaws and all, you slowly come to realize just how wonderful you really are. Love the weird ways your ears stick out at the side, and be happy that you will never miss a thing being said to you. Embrace how broad your shoulders are and be grateful you’ll never need shoulder pads. Being single gives you the space to grow to love yourself without the influence of outsiders. The more you embrace yourself, the more you will come to realize that you are great just the way you are, relationship or no relationship.
2. Find A Hobby You Love
This is one of the most important steps in the process of learning how to be single and happy. I talked about this in a previous blog post 5 Important Life Lessons You Will Learn. As single people, we tend to have a bit more free time on our hands. What we do with this free time can vary, but from experience, too many singles use this time to take part in unhealthy activities. A great way to eliminate the need for such unhealthy practices is to find a hobby that you love.
Finding a hobby that you love is a great way to release any stress or doubts you may be harboring as well as occupying your mind and time. For me, the hobbies that best work are writing and making fashion illustrations. I have found that when I sketch, there is an overwhelming sense of freedom and pride. I feel at peace and I don’t seem to care as much that another couple is making out in the next row. Find your hobby and get started on the road to happiness. Trust me, you’ll feel that much more free.
3. Take Yourself Out
Who doesn’t love a good excuse to dress up and go out? I do. Society enjoys telling us that the only way to have a really fun night out on the town is to go on a date. We are also taught that if we do go out by yourself, then you are some sort of loser. That’s simply not true. You do not need to have anyone ask you to go out in order to fully enjoy yourself. Instead of spending your Friday nights home on the couch alone, moping, grab your coat and head to a cafe.
It doesn’t have to be expensive either. You can have fun while getting an ice cream from the seller down the street. Taking a walk in the park or going to a late movie can also be inexpensive ways to venture out into your local community and get your butt out of the house at the same time. Whatever you enjoyed doing in your previous relationship can also be enjoyed while riding solo. So don’t be afraid. Grab your best pants or your best wedges and go for it.
Yes I understand. I give this tip so many times in my everyday discussion with other people who are going through situations I have already conquered.The reason I do is that it really works. After my last relationship crashed and burned, and left a gaping hole in my heart, I thought I’d ever have a normal life or be happy again. After having traveled to quite a few places in and around my prefecture, I laugh at that premature and naive thought process.
Through my travels, I have discovered how brave, strong and resourceful I am. I have also come to realize that I really prefer, for the most part, to travel solo. Travelling solo is scary and wonderful and confusing; all at the same time and I love it. You have a unique advantage as a single person because you might not have children or anyone preventing you from travelling. I even know amazing, single moms who travel with their kids. You never know! The world is your buffet. Come and get it.
5. Meet Other Singles
When you are single, it is often tempting to believe that you are in this by yourself. Sorry, but you’re wrong. In every city, at any given time, there are thousands of singles walking around, living their lives and breathing. Yes, you heard it right here. You are one of many. According to The Conversation, this century is seeing much more singles than previous studies, and it’s a good thing.
A great benefit of the increase in singles has been the introduction of “Meet Up” groups. These groups are normally categorized by interests and hobbies, such as Art, Reading or Photography. Another great benefit is that you are able to use a filter and really find people who have similar interests which can lead to better chemistry. I have met a lot of amazing people through such Meet Up groups.
6. Don’t Worry About It
Impossible? No. Improbable? Definitely not. It feels like, when I first became single, I was consistently worried about everything that came with that. Would I forever be alone? Am I never getting married? Will I never have children? Are my eggs going to dry up and just fall out due to lack of use? Absurdity at its finest. When I was approximately sixteen years old, I would daydream about the kind of future I was going to have. I’d meet the perfect guy, graduate from university, get married and live happily ever after.
When that dream didn’t go the way I had expected, I was lost. I thought that my window of opportunity had passed and I was no longer viable for a Prince Charming. If this is you, just raise your hand really quickly. It’s okay because here I am to give you some advice. Let it go. Stop worrying. Your time will come. One day God will send the man or woman who is perfectly imperfect, and you’ll look back at this period of worry and laugh. Worrying changes nothing and there are so many other, better, more productive activities you could be doing such as a hobby, taking yourself out, travelling or meeting other singles. I hope you see what I did there. 🙂
7. Embrace Being Single
Finally, embrace being single. Being single is a gift that many wish could have been extended for them. This is an essential time for you as it gives you the space and time you need to know exactly who you are and where you want to go in life. Think of this waiting period as a time to work on any internal issues and personality quirks that might want mended. Focus on other things in your life that you have going on.
You can be happy again. Be free and single and live a full life. Put your best foot forward and keep moving. Yes, you were a girlfriend, or a wife but you are so much more. Do not define yourself by the labels you have used in your past. Take a good, honest look at yourself, get out there and find your happiness. It’s been waiting on you since forever.
So there you have it. How to be single and happy in 7 easy steps.
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