Fear. One of the deadliest four-letter words I have ever had the displeasure of learning. It crushes our goals and turns some of the brightest, most talented individuals into no-getters and cowards. How many of us have allowed fear to stand in the way of a life of greatness and how many of us live in regret because of all the things we never got to do? I have faced fear at numerous times throughout my life and overcome it. So can you. You too can live a life of prosperity, peace and success, equivalent to your God-given birthright. In this post, I’m going to show you how to overcome fear and transform your life.
“The fears we don’t face become our limits.” Robin Sharma
How To Overcome Fear And Transform Your Life
BECOME AWARE OF IT
For many, fear is that feeling you get when you believe there’s some sort of danger or threat coming your way. Because of this, most people live their lives in fear without even realizing it, but this doesn’t have to happen to you.
Becoming aware of the fears in your life is the first step in overcoming them.
You don’t have to be held hostage by your fear once you become aware of the fact that something does scare you. Something terrifying (or seemingly terrifying) is standing in your way and you need to do something about it.
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When you understand that you are afraid, it becomes easier to rewire your brain to not only pick up on the things feeding your fear but also implement the things I will talk about in the next few paragraphs.
God, when He created us, did not give us a spirit of fear. He gave us a spirit of love, courage and a sound mind. Constantly reminding yourself of this fact will help you as we dive into the nitty-gritty of what it actually takes to overcome your fears and transform your life.
IDENTIFY THE CAUSES
Take a few minutes (or a few days) to think about all the fears you have been harbouring inside your heart and your mind. Grab some pen and paper, and make a list of every single thing that has scared you your entire life.
Have you been terrified of the boogie man? Jot it down. Do you have a huge fear of failure or even the dark? Write them all down and picture how each of them makes you feel.
What kinds of images come into your mind when you visualize yourself in these situations? Take a moment to look inside yourself.
From the time I was about twelve years old until some time this year, I was terrified of the dark. The idea of being alone outside completely freaked me out and I would avoid going outside after dark.
I took some time to really think about my fear of the dark and soon realized that I wasn’t really afraid of the dark. I was afraid of all the things my brain had concocted about what took place in the dark- shootings, robbery and death.
Understanding the true causes of my fear allowed me to realize that being in the dark wasn’t necessarily the scary thing and once I figured that part out I was good to go.
Nowadays, walking around after dark doesn’t stand in the way of me living my life.
TALK ABOUT IT
For the umpteenth years I was suffering from my fear of the dark I was embarrassed. I mean, who wouldn’t be? I was a grown woman petrified by something that seemed to be so stupid.
I also never told anyone besides my mom. As human beings, many of us understand that talking to someone else when we have a problem is healthy, yet many do nothing with this information.
We sit on our fears and doubts and keep them all bottled inside. Why? Again, because of fear. We are afraid of being embarrassed and afraid of what our friends and family will think.
The reoccurring storm of fear never rests and keeping quiet only feeds it to the point where we’re hurting every day.
Talking about what scares you helps not only you but everyone around you. It helps you to heal the hurt, see how to move past your fears and live a life of victory.
As simplistic as it might sound, the act of talking to another person you trust is transformative. Give your fear the voice is needs and let someone in. Get that weight off your shoulders.
Dale Carnegie said it best, “If you want to conquer fear, don’t sit down and think about it. Get out and get busy.” Some of the most common fears we experience have a lot to do with fear of failing, fear of success (yes, that’s a real thing) or fear of ending up poor.
These fears warp our views of reality and instead of getting up and doing something about it, we curl up in balls and wait. We wait for the “okay” to invest in ourselves and our new business idea.
And we wait for a sign from God that things are going to work out the way we want them to when we want them to. But that’s just a recipe for disaster.
I’ve met many people who claim to have faith that moves mountains, but all they do is sit around waiting and waiting for the right time to make a move.
This isn’t faith. This is fear masked in doubt and presenting itself as faith.
You need to get out there and take action. Go invest in that new course you’ve been dying to take for months! That new blog or business you’ve wanted to start all year but you were afraid no-one would like it? Go ahead and do it anyway.
Courage doesn’t mean that you’re not afraid. It means that you’re willing to go ahead anyway.
LET IT GO
The biggest reason fear has such a firm hold on our lives is that we refuse to let go and release control of our life. If it’s one thing I have had to learn over the past few weeks, it’s that I need to let go and let God.
About three weeks ago, based on a series of events, my time on the island was coming to an end. First, there was an intense shock. Then the fear set it. “What was I going to do?” “How would I go on?” Though I had felt a nudge in my stomach earlier this year that I wanted to end my contract, I hadn’t prepared myself to do so this soon.
As human beings, we want to be in complete control of our lives. We want to know that we control what we do, where we go and when we go, and it’s terrifying to think otherwise.
In her book “Believe Bigger”, Marshawn Evans Daniels teaches that it’s when God is ready to shift you into a higher purpose that things tend to go wrong, and when things go wrong (or even before things go wrong), that’s when fear steps in.
Fear serves as a barrier between where we are now and where we are meant to be. It comes to destroy the destiny God planned for us in advance and has succeeded numerous times throughout history.
Ever wonder why some people are seemingly afraid of nothing and dive into any situation headfirst? It’s because they have let go of the need to control it all and have put their faith in God, and that’s what I’ve been doing too.
When I was obsessed with control, I’d walk around mopey, sad, and the fruits of the spirit were not very apparent in my life. Now that I’ve given God complete control and let Him take the wheel, I’ve never been happier. Life can be scary but what’s even scarier, in my opinion, is a life of unfulfilled potential. A life where we never get to unleash our full potential.
GROW THROUGH IT
Fear is one of the best forms of personal development as far as I am concerned. Why would I say that? Because it gives you an opportunity to tap into power we never even knew we had.
You’ve probably heard so many times that when something scares you it means that you should go after it with everything you’ve got and it’s true! Moving halfway across the world was a terrifying experience at first. I was all alone and I couldn’t just up and leave at the first sign of trouble.
It’s also been one of the best decisions I have ever made. Living in Japan has forever transformed my life. I have grown closer and closer to God, met some of the strongest women I have ever seen and now understand, for the most part, what my purpose on earth is.
Everything happened in the right way, at the right time and none of it would have ever happened had I given into my fears and doubts.
Grow through what scares you. Put your big-girl pants on and stomp past your fears like you’ve just been gifted a brand new pair of Louis Vuittons.
The key to living a life of peace and prosperity is to focus on things we desire instead of the things we fear.
If you enjoyed reading about how to overcome fear and transform your life, you would enjoy reading more about how to use the law of attraction to create the life you’ve always wanted.
Also, let me know. What is your biggest fear? Does it ever stand in your way?
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Until next time. Peace, love and prayers.