Hi guys! How was your weekend? I hope you had time for some R&R. The past few weeks have gotten so much busier for me. My blog has been taking up more and more of my time, and this means I have less time for rest and relaxation. I haven’t had a lot of time to practice self-love. Isn’t that a dilly of a pickle? I know that I previously wrote about 30 great ways to practice self-love daily but I really wanted to go a bit more in-depth on the subject because self-love really is so important. In this post, I will give you brilliant ways to practice self-love and show you how to love yourself first today.
“If you don’t love yourself, you will always chase after people who don’t love you either.” Mandy Hale
Brilliant Ways To Practice Self-Love Today
LIVE A LIFE OF INTENTION
Let me ask you a question. Are you living your life or is your life secretly living you? An odd question, I know, but it opens up the conversation about what kind of life we want to live. Are we just reacting to everything that happens to us in our daily lives or are we actively living?
When I was younger, I always I knew exactly what kind of life I wanted to live. I knew when I would be married, and what kind of job I would have. It took a series of unfortunate events occurring for me to realize I wasn’t in charge of my life at all. In fact, I was just a free passenger on the ride of my life.
I decided then and there to start living. From that point on, I would have control of my life. I encourage you to do the same. Mindfully choose how you want to spend each day. You also need to decide what you will spend your time thinking about and the kinds of experiences you wish to create.
Choose the direction you want your life to go and choose a life of fulfilment.
TAKE TIME TO APPRECIATE YOURSELF
This has got to my biggest issue when it comes to self-love and self-confidence. It is always fairly easy for me to sing the praises of others but ever so hard for me sing my own.
I sometimes failed to recognize all the talents and good things that lay within myself. I realized I really didn’t love myself at all. Hard pill to swallow for me at the time.
Like me, the first thing you need to do is to recognize the impact that you have on others. Every single day that you are alive, you make a difference to more people than you know. Take time each day to appreciate all that makes you who you are and all that you contribute to the world.
Grab a piece of paper and make a list of all of your strengths as well. Too often we focus on our weaknesses and forget our self-worth. Don’t fall into this trap. Appreciate who you are, and whenever you need to, read the list of qualities that make you an amazing person.
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Smiling, ugh. This is one thing that freaks me out at times. Is it just me or is everyone afraid of the way their face looks when they smile? Just me? Okay.
For years, whenever I had to take a picture I would practice for at least an hour beforehand. I wanted to get my smile just right. My self-confidence hinged on everything looking just perfect.
It wasn’t until one of my friends pointed out how silly I looked that I stopped doing this. Sometimes you need an outside pair of eyes to help you see the truth.
Smiling is a fantastic way to practice self-love today. I try to smile at least 10 to 15 times a day because it reminds me to love myself. (I hope that isn’t too excessive, lol).
When you smile, it makes you feel better. It changes your perspective on a situation and it just makes things a bit easier to handle. In a post last year, I spoke about how smiling can make you a happier person in 10 minutes and it holds true today.
When you’re feeling down, smile. If you can’t seem to find the light at the end of the tunnel, smile. Trust me on this. (My profile pic should speak for itself).
CREATE A “Love Yourself First” ROUTINE
After going through a toxic, almost life-threatening relationship, my sense of self-worth and self-confidence were nonexistent. The thing is I spent so much of my time and energy loving and doting on the other person that I completely disregarded my own self in the process.
This might be your current story and it might not. Either way, you need to develop a “love yourself first” routine and carry out this routine on a daily basis.
Loving yourself first is seriously so important because not only will your sense of self-benefit, your self-respect will also be positively affected.
Developing your self-love routine can be as simple as you make it. Firstly you need to treat yourself and your needs as if you are having an amazing love affair with the person staring back at you when you look in the mirror.
You need to consistently be nice to yourself and say kind words. Compliment yourself on your hair or that great outfit you bought yesterday then go from there.
The biggest part of your routine needs to be protected. It is important that you protect yourself and learn when you need to say no or have time for yourself. Set boundaries and ensure that you have the right people in your corner at all times.
EMBRACE YOUR FLAWS
Did I read that correctly? You want me to embrace all the stuff that’s wrong with me including everything that gives me self-esteem issues? Yup! To practice self-love you need to fall in love with yourself all over again and embrace your flaws.
Every time we look in the mirror we see our imperfections. We see that line on our nose that makes it a bit crooked. A pimple we had last week is still very much there and we sigh. Why can’t we be as perfect as Tamera Mowry or some other celeb?
Honestly, perfection is an illusion and no-one is perfect or even appears perfect all the time. Try catching some of these celebs when they just wake up in the morning! (Although I have seen Tamera Mowry’s wake up routine and she looks darn good! Love her!!)
The truth is we are all flawed in some way and the sooner you begin to embrace that, the sooner you’ll start to change the image you have of yourself.
Stop comparing your body and all its parts to other people, and start wearing that dress you’ve been longing to wear since FOREVER or that tux that you think makes you look fat.
Your happiness and your self-worth should not be dependent on what you or anyone else looks like so embrace who you are because you are flawsome!!
Be Good To Yourself
The truth is we live in a world where we are constantly comparing ourselves to someone else on social media. The thing is, social media is just a snapshot of someone else’s life. You really have no idea what that person goes through once that photo is uploaded.
I suggest spending less time looking at others and spend more time focusing on loving yourself. At the end of the day, if you don’t truly love yourself and consistently practice self-love, you will never be able to understand true happiness.
I hope by the time you’ve gotten to this point, you’ve done some thinking and are ready to really start being good to yourself. Go ahead. Love yourself. You deserve it!
If you enjoyed reading about how to practice self-love today, then you will enjoy the extended list of 30 ways to practice self-love every single day even when you’re busy!
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Until next time.
Peace, love and prayers.