Unique Responses To Toxic People

Unique Responses To Toxic People

In life, we come across many different types of people. With different people come varying personalities. Some of which we truly love, and want to be around all the time. Then there are those special people with those personalities that make you want to run and hide. Those are who we call toxic people. They tend to take so much from you and drain all your energy in the process. The good thing though, as odd as it sounds, is that I have dealt with those types of people at varying points in my life and am here to give you my unique responses to toxic people.

“Toxic people attach themselves like cinder blocks tied to your ankles, and then invite you for a swim in their poisoned waters.” John Mark Green


Toxic people are those kinds of people who have no positive contribution to you or anyone else but themselves.

They are overly critical and don’t understand how to offer positive feedback or criticism.

When you are around toxic people, you may start to feel an increase in negativity or anxiety, and this might translate into the types of conversations that occur or the way you feel about yourself after an encounter.


Unique Responses To Toxic People

 1. Ignore Them

I don’t think there is anything that people dislike more than being ignored. When you ignore someone, you are basically telling them that they or what they have to say doesn’t matter.

Although this can make them act up a lot of times, it can also have the opposite effect of making them stop talking or acting the way they are when they realize no-one is paying attention, and attention is key for a toxic person.

I suggest you ignore what toxic people say and do. Remain silent and pretend as if whatever they say or did, did not happen. However, when you do happen to see them in other places, be cordial. Say hello and be on your way.


2. Be Kind

Be kind to toxic people. When I wrote my first post for 2018, I stated that a “kind word can really change the world”. I still believe this. Whenever you come into contact with a toxic person, be kind to them.

Smile at them and give them a hug. This really makes them uncomfortable as they expect you to respond in the same way they have spoken to or acted towards you.

This extends to every interaction with them. Always smile and listen to what they have to say. Many of them really just want someone to listen or open up to. You never know, you might end up listening and soon, their toxic traits slowly disappear.


3. Question Them

From experience with toxic people, I realize that many of them enjoy questioning me. This seems like an attempt at throwing me off balance or making me feel less than.

What I have found works well with them is to turn their attempt at questioning you into a chance to question them, and get to the core of who they are, what their past was like, and why they are the way they are.

Many toxic people have either had someone let them down or were never really given the affection and love they needed. So delving into their past might help you to better understand their triggers and thus know how to handle them in future encounters.


4. Give Them Compliments

Do you know that giving someone a compliment, regardless of who they are, really changes the mood? You didn’t? Well it does. I remember once I was speaking to an acquaintance, and she was being really disruptive and a general nuisance.

My other co-workers were not having it so I decided to do something. I looked at her shoes; she was wearing nude pumps at the time. I gave a big smile and said, “Wow, your shoes are so cute. Where did you get them?”

She instantly stopped and looked at me with a big smile. She proceeded to explain that she had bought them on sale and how great they were etc.

The point is that the whole mood of the room changed. While that person was busy talking about her new shoes, everyone else could relax and enjoy the time we had left together.

So go ahead. Give them a compliment that is so genuine it throws them off their game and changes the whole tone of the situation.


5. Forgive Them

Finally, I say you need to forgive them. Forgiveness is a powerful tool and can really change your life and the other person who whom you have forgiven.

You might say “what kind of a response is this?” or “Why don’t I just tell them to get lost and be done with it?” My answer to that is forgiveness sets you free from that toxic person in your life.

It enables you to tolerate their presence without it affecting you or your self-esteem. Forgiving the person who constantly hurts you takes the pressure off of you to constantly try to come up with some rude or witty response.

I guarantee that once you forgive them, you’ll be set free and understand that there is a reason behind their toxic ways, and sometimes there is nothing you can do for them but live your life.


So there you have it. These are a few unique responses to toxic people that I use whenever I need to. My last posts are linked below. Be sure to check them out as well:







Also, let me know. What unique responses to toxic people do you utilize in your life? How do you really handle them? Did any of them make the list? Please comment below. Please also like and share this post, as well as support me on all my social media.

Until next time. Peace, love and prayers.


Unique Responses To Toxic People


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  1. January 18, 2018 / 8:24 AM

    These are definitely some unique responses to toxic people, I like the idea of being kind to them. Sometimes the saying kill them with kindness couldn’t be more apt.

    • January 19, 2018 / 6:52 AM

      Yes exactly. Kill their attitudes with kindness and one day they’ll change.

      • January 19, 2018 / 7:52 AM

        Most definitely, everyone has the capability to change and you can only hope that one day these people will take that step.

        • January 19, 2018 / 8:17 AM

          That is so true. I truly hope that people will start to realize that their lives are spiraling and make the changes needed.

  2. January 18, 2018 / 8:25 AM

    I really try to be kind always, but then sometimes it’s too hard to be kind to toxic people so I ignore them most of the time if not responding them with my sarcasm. 😐 I hope I’m not considered as toxic for the same reason. Hmm.

    • January 19, 2018 / 6:51 AM

      I think there is a fine line and we need to be careful to not cross that line. When you begin mimicking toxic people and their actions you slowly become toxic yourself.

  3. January 18, 2018 / 8:33 AM

    Excellent advice. Very often toxic people will derail their conversation with you to keep you off balance. disputing some unimportant fact or statement can totally get you off track. Try to spot these and just ignore them or ask them why this issue is important. “Why does it matter that it was Tuesday, not Wednesday?”

    • January 19, 2018 / 6:50 AM

      I can totally understand the need to try to put you off. Rerouting the question to them really changes the situation as they are now in the hot seat not you.

  4. January 18, 2018 / 9:07 AM

    Great tips.A few years ago I worked with someone who was so toxic and for a while I took all of the toxicity and convinced myself it was me. Ugh and never again!

    • January 19, 2018 / 6:49 AM

      Yes it is so true that at times we feel like we are the ones being toxic, but if we change our outlook and thus our response to them, situations change.

  5. Jay Colby
    January 18, 2018 / 10:01 AM

    Great post I always love reading articles about improving our mindset. Ironing toxic people is so important to our mental health.

    • January 19, 2018 / 6:46 AM

      I do believe that being the light others need really promotes change.

  6. Ariel
    January 18, 2018 / 10:42 AM

    I love all of your suggestions for what to do with toxic people. Toxic people are not good for your life but are still not worth it to treat like low life. I treat people with respect no matter how they treat me or what they mean in my life. Thank you for sharing this.

    • January 19, 2018 / 6:45 AM

      That is so fantastic. I think if we just treat them as we want to be treated things change

  7. Tereka
    January 18, 2018 / 11:53 AM

    I see toxic people… lol. It’s so true though. They are everywhere. This is very helpful for those who encounters them alot. I normally ignore them and give them an icy shoulder. Never thought about questioning them. Gonna use that as soon as I get back to work lol.

    • January 19, 2018 / 6:44 AM

      Yeah at first I used to do the same things but it never worked. Now, with changing my responses to them situations change.

  8. January 19, 2018 / 4:46 AM

    Toxic people can really cramp the day. We must remember though; something has made them this way so let’s help them!

    • January 19, 2018 / 6:38 AM

      Exactly it’s important to help them because you might be the change they need.

  9. January 19, 2018 / 6:24 AM

    I like the idea of putting a positive spin on someone else’s negativity. I, too, try to point out the positives and dish out compliments rather than insults whenever approached by someone toxic.

    • January 19, 2018 / 6:38 AM

      That is great. I think a soft answer turns away wrath and from experience it really works

  10. January 19, 2018 / 6:33 AM

    Hey, good tips but it takes lot of personality to actually follow them. Cant imagine going and hugging sb do called toxic. Ofcourse forgiving them is best advice of them all – cos without being able to forgive I might turn into “toxic person” mysel eventually…..

    • January 19, 2018 / 6:36 AM

      Honestly I think it takes being the bigger person of the two. In order to prevent becoming even remotely similar to that person, try to be kind to them and love them because love can change things

  11. January 19, 2018 / 7:23 AM

    These are great tips! Ridding my life of toxic people is so needed.

  12. Deana Tucker
    January 19, 2018 / 8:13 AM

    This was such an informative article. In my opinion, the best thing to do when it comes to toxic people, is to ignore them! You never want to stoop down to their level.

    • January 19, 2018 / 8:16 AM

      You are so right! You never want to take the risk of becoming toxic yourself.

  13. January 19, 2018 / 10:38 AM

    Their modus operandi is to get people to do what they want them to do. It’s all about them. They use other people to accomplish whatever their goal happens to be. Forget what you want; this is not about equality in a relationship—far from it.

    • January 19, 2018 / 8:16 PM

      Yes this can be the case but I believe that you can’t respond to them how they respond to you or you end up becoming the very thing you dislike -a toxic person

  14. January 19, 2018 / 1:51 PM

    You’ve shared some great ideas! Forgiving them can be hard, but I think it is important to do that so you aren’t holding on to the negativity.

    • January 19, 2018 / 8:13 PM

      Yes, from experience, forgiveness heals you even more than it heals the other person.

  15. January 19, 2018 / 5:06 PM

    That’s the point. Toxic people are not to be treated in rude way, but in a loving one. Keep being kind to them, as also to anybody else, so that they will understand that we are social and need one another..

    • January 19, 2018 / 8:06 PM

      Yes this is the only way they will see the need to change. Two wrongs don’t make a right.

  16. January 19, 2018 / 11:12 PM

    I am all for killing people with kindness! This is such a good list, there is no point in letting toxic behaviour breed!


    • January 22, 2018 / 12:22 PM

      Always. Being super kind to others will definitely make a difference in their life.

  17. January 19, 2018 / 11:30 PM

    These definitely are unique responses to toxic people. I wish I would have known this when I was younger. I’m definitely more aware as an adult.

  18. January 20, 2018 / 4:15 AM

    Can’t convince all of the people all of the time right? I really like that it is okay to just ignore toxic people. Toxic people are able to completely derail any day or effort almost immediately. Nothing is worse than starting off the day in a crap mood due to early contact with toxic people.

    • January 22, 2018 / 12:17 PM

      Yes sometimes just ignoring those kinds of people is the best response. There is no need for us to sink to their level and respond to them in the same they speak to us.

  19. January 20, 2018 / 4:17 AM

    I don’t handle toxic people well – but I’d be careful with that “compliment” them approach. Many toxic people are narcissistic and they spend enough time complimenting themselves that they rarely need reaffirmation. It all goes straight to their head. For me, I just cut the ones out of my life that I could. For those that I couldn’t, I’m biding my time when they will also be eliminated.For now, I’m taking the ignore and avoid approach. So far, she has rejected all my attempts at friendship and kindness.

    • January 22, 2018 / 12:16 PM

      I completely see where you’re coming from. I also agree that all responses might not be the best responses. What I would suggest, like you have said, is to figure out the kind of toxic person you are dealing with and then chose which response you think will work best for that kind of person. Not all toxic people are alike and I think choosing different responses for each kind is best.

  20. January 20, 2018 / 5:24 AM

    Be kind. YES! So easy to say, so hard to do. But I’m definitely going to keep practicing. Thanks for the reminder.

    • January 22, 2018 / 12:09 PM

      You are very welcome. At first it can be hard but practice makes perfect.

  21. January 20, 2018 / 7:05 AM

    I have had some toxic people in my life. My best advice is to just stay away from them.

  22. Bobbi
    January 20, 2018 / 8:02 AM

    Toxic people are horrible sometimes and this is a great post of how to deal with it. Thanks for sharing all of these ways to handle talking to them.

    • January 22, 2018 / 12:09 PM

      You are so welcome. I hope this post helps you a lot in your daily encounters with others.

  23. January 20, 2018 / 12:34 PM

    As a receptionist I would people yelling at me. I always tried to “kill” them with kindness and some would even apologize to me. It was the most satisfying thing.

    • January 22, 2018 / 8:37 AM

      That is fantastic to hear. I love when people respond with kindness instead of more hostility.

  24. January 20, 2018 / 1:08 PM

    Toxic people can drain you of all the positivity and energy. However, like you said, forgiveness is powerful and if nothing else, it will bring a lot of peace to you!

  25. January 21, 2018 / 2:04 AM

    This is such a good post. I’ve been trying to get rid of toxicity in my life and not be toxic to others.

    • January 22, 2018 / 8:29 AM

      It can be a slippery slope so be careful with how you approach toxic people and be aware of yourself and your actions in the process.

  26. January 22, 2018 / 6:17 AM

    I personally do not have much patience for any toxic people that come into my life but sometimes it can’t be helped and you have to deal with it. Thanks for the strategies, they are definitely easier to talk about and harder to implement but with everything in life you have to work at it.

    • January 22, 2018 / 8:10 AM

      I agree that they can be difficult to implement at first but if you consistently practice them then it’ll be like a second nature.

  27. January 22, 2018 / 11:36 PM

    Toxic people are something you don’t need in your life, but sometimes have no choice in the matter. Your tips are sensible and useful.

  28. Kiwi
    January 23, 2018 / 9:31 PM

    Im an Aquarius. I have to ignore them. I cant kill them with kindness all the time because a lot of times that doesnt work so Ignoring and keeping my distance works better for my energy.

    • January 24, 2018 / 8:34 PM

      I agree that it doesn’t work sometimes. We just need to figure out what works and use it.

  29. January 23, 2018 / 11:53 PM

    This is such an awesome post! A lot of people don’t recognize when someone toxic comes into theor life and if they do they aren’t sure how to handle them. You gave same really great tips, thanks for sharing!

  30. Deb Dutta
    January 25, 2018 / 8:50 AM

    This is seriously a great post! Its so important to recognize and handle toxic people properly!!

  31. February 6, 2018 / 8:26 AM

    I love response #5. Forgiveness is usually what I try to do. I’ve realized some people are just raised the wrong way or are having a bad time in there lives at the moment, so I try to help the best I can without triggering them. Thanks for sharing!

    • February 9, 2018 / 6:02 PM

      You are welcome. I believe that forgiveness not only helps out the other person but it releases you

  32. February 9, 2018 / 12:58 PM

    These are such wonderful tips when dealing with toxic people.

  33. February 16, 2018 / 10:32 PM

    I have had some toxic people in my life. I generally just ignore them. I can’t deal with the drama.

  34. February 16, 2018 / 10:38 PM

    I’ve met a lot of toxic people and I’ve been to few toxic relationship. It drains you out but one thing I learned from them is patience.

    • February 17, 2018 / 4:16 PM

      Oh it is so great that you were able to learn from the experience

  35. February 17, 2018 / 3:43 AM

    I love how you have such positive responses to the toxic person. Sometimes a wall of pleasant in the best remedy.

  36. Tom
    September 26, 2018 / 1:08 AM

    I feel a lot of times I might have been a toxic person. Life screws you or maybe rather the flesh, the world and devil (all potential agents of temptation to sin) do it.
    How does one transform from a toxic (death loving) mind to a life loving one when been through trauma and facing difficult situations?
    Holiness seems Oneness with God and together with neighbour also, through the glue of Love from the Holy Spirit. Love is key but the most confused and insufficiently defined word and meaning to enable identification when it is genuine. It is the glue and medicinal cure for toxicity but where to find it?!

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