In life, we come across many different types of people. With different people come varying personalities. Some of which we truly love, and want to be around all the time. Then there are those special people with those personalities that make you want to run and hide. Those are who we call toxic people. They tend to take so much from you and drain all your energy in the process. The good thing though, as odd as it sounds, is that I have dealt with those types of people at varying points in my life and am here to give you my unique responses to toxic people.
“Toxic people attach themselves like cinder blocks tied to your ankles, and then invite you for a swim in their poisoned waters.” John Mark Green
Toxic people are those kinds of people who have no positive contribution to you or anyone else but themselves.
They are overly critical and don’t understand how to offer positive feedback or criticism.
When you are around toxic people, you may start to feel an increase in negativity or anxiety, and this might translate into the types of conversations that occur or the way you feel about yourself after an encounter.
Unique Responses To Toxic People
1. Ignore Them
I don’t think there is anything that people dislike more than being ignored. When you ignore someone, you are basically telling them that they or what they have to say doesn’t matter.
Although this can make them act up a lot of times, it can also have the opposite effect of making them stop talking or acting the way they are when they realize no-one is paying attention, and attention is key for a toxic person.
I suggest you ignore what toxic people say and do. Remain silent and pretend as if whatever they say or did, did not happen. However, when you do happen to see them in other places, be cordial. Say hello and be on your way.
2. Be Kind
Be kind to toxic people. When I wrote my first post for 2018, I stated that a “kind word can really change the world”. I still believe this. Whenever you come into contact with a toxic person, be kind to them.
Smile at them and give them a hug. This really makes them uncomfortable as they expect you to respond in the same way they have spoken to or acted towards you.
This extends to every interaction with them. Always smile and listen to what they have to say. Many of them really just want someone to listen or open up to. You never know, you might end up listening and soon, their toxic traits slowly disappear.
3. Question Them
From experience with toxic people, I realize that many of them enjoy questioning me. This seems like an attempt at throwing me off balance or making me feel less than.
What I have found works well with them is to turn their attempt at questioning you into a chance to question them, and get to the core of who they are, what their past was like, and why they are the way they are.
Many toxic people have either had someone let them down or were never really given the affection and love they needed. So delving into their past might help you to better understand their triggers and thus know how to handle them in future encounters.
4. Give Them Compliments
Do you know that giving someone a compliment, regardless of who they are, really changes the mood? You didn’t? Well it does. I remember once I was speaking to an acquaintance, and she was being really disruptive and a general nuisance.
My other co-workers were not having it so I decided to do something. I looked at her shoes; she was wearing nude pumps at the time. I gave a big smile and said, “Wow, your shoes are so cute. Where did you get them?”
She instantly stopped and looked at me with a big smile. She proceeded to explain that she had bought them on sale and how great they were etc.
The point is that the whole mood of the room changed. While that person was busy talking about her new shoes, everyone else could relax and enjoy the time we had left together.
So go ahead. Give them a compliment that is so genuine it throws them off their game and changes the whole tone of the situation.
5. Forgive Them
Finally, I say you need to forgive them. Forgiveness is a powerful tool and can really change your life and the other person who whom you have forgiven.
You might say “what kind of a response is this?” or “Why don’t I just tell them to get lost and be done with it?” My answer to that is forgiveness sets you free from that toxic person in your life.
It enables you to tolerate their presence without it affecting you or your self-esteem. Forgiving the person who constantly hurts you takes the pressure off of you to constantly try to come up with some rude or witty response.
I guarantee that once you forgive them, you’ll be set free and understand that there is a reason behind their toxic ways, and sometimes there is nothing you can do for them but live your life.
So there you have it. These are a few unique responses to toxic people that I use whenever I need to. My last posts are linked below. Be sure to check them out as well:
Also, let me know. What unique responses to toxic people do you utilize in your life? How do you really handle them? Did any of them make the list? Please comment below. Please also like and share this post, as well as support me on all my social media.
Until next time. Peace, love and prayers.