As a single woman, I have realized something profound. There are tons and tons of articles that tell you what you should be doing for Valentine’s Day. Do you know what doesn’t really exist? Articles to tell you what not to do this Valentine’s Day. I understand that Valentine’s Day is a day for love, but not everyone is in a relationship. Therefore, I have put together a great list of what you should NOT be doing this Valentine’s Day. I trust that this will help those of us who are single, divorced or otherwise and have absolutely no clue what not to do with ourselves.
“I have love in my life. I just don’t have a relationship, and that feels really natural right now.” — Taylor Swift
What NOT To Do This Valentine’s Day:
Valentine’s Day is honestly just another day. There is absolutely no reason for you to cry about it. Crying solves nothing. It makes your mascara run, your head hurt and your nose runny. Negative thoughts tend to be the reason why so many of us cry and sink into depression. So get rid of those negative thoughts and spend your time being positive and happy. Remember that you are awesome. Acknowledge that you are bad-ass and know that no matter what, you are whole.
So you’re single. Great. That gives you no right to walk around on Valentine’s Day being mad at everyone. It is no-one’s fault that you are single. Maybe you have not had the best luck dating in the past so think of this time as a period of growth. It might also be that you have just decided that it is better to be alone than to settle for anyone who does not deserve you.
Plus there are so many benefits of having some time to yourself. You don’t have to worry about dressing up super sexy, shaving your legs and spending money on expensive outfits.
Call Your Ex
For the love of everything that is good in this world, please do not call your ex on Valentine’s Day. This should be the cardinal rule for what not to do on Valentine’s Day. Remind yourself that there is a reason you guys broke up and it won’t do you any good to get back into that mess. It should go without saying, but please, along with not calling your ex, do not go on a blind date just to avoid being alone.
Be real with yourself for a few minutes. You and I both know that a large number of blind dates end in disaster. So don’t put yourself through all of that stress. It would be much better if you could just chill.
Compare Yourself To Others
Everywhere you go, every time you log unto social media, it seems like everyone and anyone is happily in a relationship. I have been there. It used to feel like every single one of my friends was married, engaged, having a baby, or all three. This would make me compare my life to theirs. Why wasn’t I married? When was I going to have a baby? Would I forever be alone?
Stop comparing yourself to them. First of all, everyone takes a different path in life. You might just get married later on in life. Secondly, not everything you see on social media reflects the truth. Many of these couples you see online being kissie-kissie and huggie-huggie are overcompensating for the fact that in real life, their relationship just isn’t that great.
I understand you completely. You are single, and sometimes it really does feel awful. What you shouldn’t be doing is going around complaining to everyone that you are so alone because you don’t have anyone in your life. First of all, you aren’t really alone. All across this great big world, there are millions of other people who are single as well. What point is there to complain? It only serves to make you feel worse and drive your friends and family crazy.
Love is out there. Just because you haven’t found it yet does not mean that it does not exist. As I said before, everyone takes a different path in life. Some get married at twenty, some at thirty and still some get married later on in life. Believe in love and hold unto the hope that one day the perfect guy or girl will come your way and you will be just as happy with them as you are now. Doubt is fear, and fear is the exact opposite of what faith is. One day the person you have been hoping for will come your way. So please don’t give up.
What To Do This Valentine’s Day:
I couldn’t really give you a list of things that you shouldn’t be doing this Valentine’s Day without including my own list of what I believe you SHOULD be doing. Here are my top pieces of advice:
Buy Yourself A Gift
What better way to still treat yourself on Valentine’s Day than to buy yourself a gift? There is no rule that states that a gift must be from someone else. So go to your favourite store and pick out some new shoes or a new outfit. You could even pretend it’s your very own special holiday and go all out.
Go Out With Friends
As I said further up in this article, there are plenty of other guys and gals out there who are just as single, or even more single than you are. Why don’t you guys all get together and go out. Better yet, you could even have a girl’s night in where you celebrate Galentine’s Day or you could have a guy’s night in and play some games. The options are endless.
Valentine’s Day is the absolute best time to embrace your inner hobo. This is your best chance to do absolutely nothing. After all, Valentine’s Day is really just another day. Go to work. Head home. Chill and do what you always do. There is no pressure for you to do anything out of the ordinary.
Do A Secret Santa
Do you know many other singles in your office? Why not hold a Valentine’s Secret Santa? I mean, everyone loves to get gifts. You could use Valentine’s Day as a fantastic opportunity to exchange gifts. You could even step it up a notch and plan a Secret Valentine’s Day party. Let your hair down, eat some great food and give fabulous gifts.
Have A Spa Day
Nothing is as exquisite as having a spa day. When you have a spa day, you can melt away all your stress, pain and any tight muscles with every pass of the masseuse’s hand. So make a reservation to hit the spa. Many spas have groupons and other discounts for Valentine’s Day. You could even grab a friend and take advantage of the “couples” rate that many offer.
Take A Mini Vacay
Do you have the travel bug? Are you yearning to go on an adventure? Head out on a mini vacation on Valentine’s Day. Challenge yourself to visit new and exciting places every year on Valentine’s Day. You could even make it a tradition. This gives you something to look forward to yearly, and you are able to enjoy it while you are single or even when you are apart of a relationship one day.
Catch A Movie
Movies are always a good time. You can also enjoy a movie with friends or by yourself. Go to your local cinema and treat yourself to a buffet of amazing finds. If you love family movies then you might want to check out Peter Rabbit. When action and superheroes are what you are really craving, you can check out my fan pick Black Panther. It does not have to be a romantic comedy. So grab some comfy clothes, head to the movies and popcorn your night away.
I know that being single can be hard because I have been single for the past four years. At first, it was very difficult trying to find my groove when any special holiday came around. What I had to realize was that single or not, life goes on. You need to make it a priority to love yourself enough that being single does not matter. It does not take two halves to make a great relationship, it takes two whole people. So keep working on you, and one day when the perfect person finds you, you will be ready.
There you have it. I have given you my list of what NOT to do this Valentine’s Day. I even gave you the bonus list of things you should be doing.
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Until next time. Peace, love and prayers.