What Not To Do This Valentine’s Day

What NOT To Do This Valentine's Day

As a single woman, I have realized something profound. There are tons and tons of articles that tell you what you should be doing for Valentine’s Day. Do you know what doesn’t really exist? Articles to tell you what not to do this Valentine’s Day. I understand that Valentine’s Day is a day for love, but not everyone is in a relationship. Therefore, I have put together a great list of what you should NOT be doing this Valentine’s Day. I trust that this will help those of us who are single, divorced or otherwise and have absolutely no clue what not to do with ourselves.

“I have love in my life. I just don’t have a relationship, and that feels really natural right now.” — Taylor Swift

What NOT To Do This Valentine’s Day:

What Not To Do This Valentine's Day

Cry

Valentine’s Day is honestly just another day. There is absolutely no reason for you to cry about it. Crying solves nothing. It makes your mascara run, your head hurt and your nose runny. Negative thoughts tend to be the reason why so many of us cry and sink into depression. So get rid of those negative thoughts and spend your time being positive and happy. Remember that you are awesome. Acknowledge that you are bad-ass and know that no matter what, you are whole.

Get Mad

So you’re single. Great. That gives you no right to walk around on Valentine’s Day being mad at everyone. It is no-one’s fault that you are single. Maybe you have not had the best luck dating in the past so think of this time as a period of growth. It might also be that you have just decided that it is better to be alone than to settle for anyone who does not deserve you.

Plus there are so many benefits of having some time to yourself. You don’t have to worry about dressing up super sexy, shaving your legs and spending money on expensive outfits.

Call Your Ex

For the love of everything that is good in this world, please do not call your ex on Valentine’s Day. This should be the cardinal rule for what not to do on Valentine’s Day. Remind yourself that there is a reason you guys broke up and it won’t do you any good to get back into that mess. It should go without saying, but please, along with not calling your ex, do not go on a blind date just to avoid being alone.

Be real with yourself for a few minutes. You and I both know that a large number of blind dates end in disaster. So don’t put yourself through all of that stress. It would be much better if you could just chill.

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Compare Yourself To Others

Everywhere you go, every time you log unto social media, it seems like everyone and anyone is happily in a relationship. I have been there. It used to feel like every single one of my friends was married, engaged, having a baby, or all three. This would make me compare my life to theirs. Why wasn’t I married? When was I going to have a baby? Would I forever be alone?

Stop comparing yourself to them. First of all, everyone takes a different path in life. You might just get married later on in life. Secondly, not everything you see on social media reflects the truth. Many of these couples you see online being kissie-kissie and huggie-huggie are overcompensating for the fact that in real life, their relationship just isn’t that great. 

Complain

I understand you completely. You are single, and sometimes it really does feel awful. What you shouldn’t be doing is going around complaining to everyone that you are so alone because you don’t have anyone in your life. First of all, you aren’t really alone. All across this great big world, there are millions of other people who are single as well. What point is there to complain? It only serves to make you feel worse and drive your friends and family crazy.

Doubt

Love is out there. Just because you haven’t found it yet does not mean that it does not exist. As I said before, everyone takes a different path in life. Some get married at twenty, some at thirty and still some get married later on in life. Believe in love and hold unto the hope that one day the perfect guy or girl will come your way and you will be just as happy with them as you are now. Doubt is fear, and fear is the exact opposite of what faith is. One day the person you have been hoping for will come your way. So please don’t give up.   

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What To Do This Valentine’s Day:

I couldn’t really give you a list of things that you shouldn’t be doing this Valentine’s Day without including my own list of what I believe you SHOULD be doing. Here are my top pieces of advice:

What To Do This Valentine's Day

Buy Yourself A Gift

What better way to still treat yourself on Valentine’s Day than to buy yourself a gift? There is no rule that states that a gift must be from someone else. So go to your favourite store and pick out some new shoes or a new outfit. You could even pretend it’s your very own special holiday and go all out.

Go Out With Friends

As I said further up in this article, there are plenty of other guys and gals out there who are just as single, or even more single than you are. Why don’t you guys all get together and go out. Better yet, you could even have a girl’s night in where you celebrate Galentine’s Day or you could have a guy’s night in and play some games. The options are endless.

Nothing

Valentine’s Day is the absolute best time to embrace your inner hobo. This is your best chance to do absolutely nothing. After all, Valentine’s Day is really just another day. Go to work. Head home. Chill and do what you always do. There is no pressure for you to do anything out of the ordinary.

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Do A Secret Santa

Do you know many other singles in your office? Why not hold a Valentine’s Secret Santa? I mean, everyone loves to get gifts. You could use Valentine’s Day as a fantastic opportunity to exchange gifts. You could even step it up a notch and plan a Secret Valentine’s Day party. Let your hair down, eat some great food and give fabulous gifts.

Have A Spa Day

Nothing is as exquisite as having a spa day. When you have a spa day, you can melt away all your stress, pain and any tight muscles with every pass of the masseuse’s hand. So make a reservation to hit the spa. Many spas have groupons and other discounts for Valentine’s Day. You could even grab a friend and take advantage of the “couples” rate that many offer.

Take A Mini Vacay

Do you have the travel bug? Are you yearning to go on an adventure? Head out on a mini vacation on Valentine’s Day. Challenge yourself to visit new and exciting places every year on Valentine’s Day. You could even make it a tradition. This gives you something to look forward to yearly, and you are able to enjoy it while you are single or even when you are apart of a relationship one day.

Catch A Movie

Movies are always a good time. You can also enjoy a movie with friends or by yourself. Go to your local cinema and treat yourself to a buffet of amazing finds. If you love family movies then you might want to check out Peter Rabbit. When action and superheroes are what you are really craving, you can check out my fan pick Black Panther. It does not have to be a romantic comedy. So grab some comfy clothes, head to the movies and popcorn your night away.

 

Final Thoughts

I know that being single can be hard because I have been single for the past four years. At first, it was very difficult trying to find my groove when any special holiday came around. What I had to realize was that single or not, life goes on. You need to make it a priority to love yourself enough that being single does not matter. It does not take two halves to make a great relationship, it takes two whole people. So keep working on you, and one day when the perfect person finds you, you will be ready.


There you have it. I have given you my list of what NOT to do this Valentine’s Day. I even gave you the bonus list of things you should be doing.

A few of my most popular posts are linked below. Be sure to check them out as well:

 

COMPLETELY CHANGE YOUR MINDSET

HOW TO NEVER GIVE UP EVEN WHEN YOU WANT TO

5 WAYS TO OVERCOME LOW SELF-ESTEEM

HOW TO REDEFINE AND REDESIGN YOUR LIFE

 

Also, let me know. Are you single or in a relationship? What are you NOT going to do this Valentine’s Day? I love reading your comments so please comment down below and let me know. Please also like and share this post. I’d really appreciate your support on all my social media as well.

Until next time. Peace, love and prayers.

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Comments (174)

  • Patricia-Ann Que 5 days ago Reply

    though im not a big fan of vday, i get the idea of feeling even more lonely if one is single. I think the best way is to spend time with friends or surround oneself with a positive crowd.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 5 days ago Reply

    I agree. If being alone is not your thing then spending the day with friends is best.

  • JK 5 days ago Reply

    Great article. You may not have a love life but always remember that there are people who love you for who you are. Your family and friends. 🙂

    My Dee Dee's Diary 5 days ago Reply

    That is so important to remember. So many forget about the other people who love them.

  • Sarah Bailey 5 days ago Reply

    These are some great tips of what not to do. I have to admit myself and the other half don’t do much for Valentine’s I bought him a game, he got me a mug and mini ghost and that will be it bar perhaps a take out.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 5 days ago Reply

    Haha. You guys are so low key. I love it. Keep doing Valentine`s Day your way.

  • Ann F. Snook-Moreau 5 days ago Reply

    I’ve had lots of amazing Valentine’s Days with my husband, but one of my favorites ever was when I was super single and just hung out with my BFF drinking wine. Also, we shouldn’t discount the non-romantic sources of love in our lives (like friends and family) on this day.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 5 days ago Reply

    That is so great that you were able to appreciate Valentine:s Day while you were single. Awesome!

  • Roland 5 days ago Reply

    You know, I like this. I wish I had someone to spoil on Valentine’s day, but I’m not fortunate like a lot of people. I treat it as just another day. But I will take your advice and do things just for me. In fact, I already have an idea what I am going to do, just sucks I have to do it alone. Great post and look forward to reading more from you.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 5 days ago Reply

    Thank you so much. I know it can be rough but just try to do things your own way and you:ll be okay.

  • Bianca 5 days ago Reply

    LOL yes, don’t call your ex no matter what. But always #treatyoself

    My Dee Dee's Diary 5 days ago Reply

    I completely agree!

  • Bryan Carey 5 days ago Reply

    I vote for doing nothing. Just treat it like an ordinary day- things will be fine!

    My Dee Dee's Diary 5 days ago Reply

    Exactly. lol

  • corinne & kirsty 5 days ago Reply

    These are all great advice. I was never big on valentine’s day, single or in a relationship. So I will be doing nothing but enjoy myself

    My Dee Dee's Diary 6 hours ago Reply

    Wonderful. Enjoy yourself to the max!!

  • Marcie 5 days ago Reply

    Yes, don’t compare yourself to others! As they say “comparison is the thief of joy.” Surround yourself with those you love and who love you.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 6 hours ago Reply

    Yes!! This is so important!

  • Fely 5 days ago Reply

    Love your not to do list but I absolutely love that you included great suggestions for things to do. I think everyone should buy themselves something they’ve been wanting for a long time.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 6 hours ago Reply

    Thank you so much!!

  • Karen Morse 5 days ago Reply

    It’s really important to show yourself some love everyday, especially on Valentine’s when you’re single. I agree, people should avoid the things that you mentioned and just treat themselves to something that’s going to be good for them.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 6 hours ago Reply

    Thank you. I think loving yourself is what is most important

  • Jessica Joachim 5 days ago Reply

    I love this! I am marred, but I spent my fair share of Valentine’s days alone in the past. I know ( sadly from experience) calling an Ex is NEVER a good idea lol

    My Dee Dee's Diary 6 hours ago Reply

    Ye I know from experience too. lol

  • Tina Hogan Grant 4 days ago Reply

    Excellent article. One needs to love themselves and enjoy their own company before fretting about being alone, You’re right, it is just another day that is way too commercialized. Look at it as a day to embrace yourself and for who you are.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 7 hours ago Reply

    Exactly. A good way to enjoy the day is just love yourself

  • emmanuel damian 4 days ago Reply

    General rule is not to call the ex. Always move forward. Be happy! Go to a spa! Get a pamper session.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 7 hours ago Reply

    Those are great rules!

  • CurlyWhippedTee 4 days ago Reply

    This is a very interesting post. I like it! Not everyone has a valentine but we should always make the best of it.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 7 hours ago Reply

    Ye I think we should always make the best of it.

  • Anosa Malanga 4 days ago Reply

    Wow, this is such a great reminder for everyone, single or committed. For me I want to treat myself for a vacation. Definitely a reward for myself.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 7 hours ago Reply

    That is so dope. Enjoy yourself when you do

  • AnnMarie John 4 days ago Reply

    I like this very much because I’ve been focusing on loving myself more ever since last year. We definitely should treat ourselves to something that makes us happy. Like a spa day or a mini vacation!

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 days ago Reply

    I am happy to hear that you’re working on loving yourself more. That is so important.

  • Kaydeon 4 days ago Reply

    Great post…even though I am married I rather do nothing…so my hubby and I will be spending the evening at home with the kids lol, happy valentine’s day

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 days ago Reply

    Haha. That is just fine. Enjoy tour night!

  • Dena S. 4 days ago Reply

    This is basically stop hurting yourself… Haha! Whether in a relationship or not, it’s up to you to make yourself feel worthy any day of the year.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 days ago Reply

    I agree. It is up to us to understand our worth

  • Gina Shirley 4 days ago Reply

    Wonderful ideas. To many people get caught up in this – wish I’d had this advice years ago when I was single.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 days ago Reply

    Thank you. I am glad that I have the chance to help others.

  • Lena 4 days ago Reply

    So true! Be kind to yourself, no matter Valentine or not – but maybe specially on this day 😍

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 days ago Reply

    Yes this is so true

  • maria 4 days ago Reply

    i completely agree with you here… I feel like valentine’s day is far from what it should be… now is just a commercial scheme
    to spend money and feel bad about yourself…

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 days ago Reply

    Ye that’s why even if you are single, you should not feel bad at all.

  • GiGi Eats 4 days ago Reply

    I actually MIGHT cry because my husband will be traveling for work … And I already miss him and he hasn’t even left yet – LOL!!

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 days ago Reply

    Awww I hope you have a great Valentine’s Day

  • Dana Gutkowski 4 days ago Reply

    V-day is a day to celebrate love in all forms. Even if you’re single you can still call someone up, write a letter, or shoot a text to tell them you love them. No need to be ashamed that you’re single on v-day. My dog and I will be sharing some cuddly moments on the couch together.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 days ago Reply

    Aww that is so cute. Have fun you guys

  • Jeanny 4 days ago Reply

    So true! I think it’s important to remember from time to time 🙂

  • Jay Colby 4 days ago Reply

    These are some great tips on things not to do on Valentine’s Day. Especially not calling someone from the past just because you’re lonely.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 days ago Reply

    Yes so many of us fall into that category.

  • Esse D 4 days ago Reply

    We are on the same wavelength! I actually did a post on where not to go on Valentine’s Day if you’re single. It’s a similar sentiment. I enjoyed this post!

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 days ago Reply

    Thank you so much. Great minds think alike I see.

  • April Stephens 4 days ago Reply

    These are great tips. Especially the part about not comparing ourselves to others.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 3 days ago Reply

    Thank you sweetie

  • Joanna 4 days ago Reply

    Valentine’s Day is just a commercial day, but because of how much is promoted, it became a reason to get depressed if you are single. When I was single I used to just ignore the day, as I know that love should be celebrated every day, not just on the 14th. So there is no reason to cry or get angry. It’s just a day.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 4 days ago Reply

    I agree it is just another day. It is just that some people don’t see it that way

  • Katie 4 days ago Reply

    Beautifully written! Thank you for providing the other side of Valentine’s Day. It is not always an easy day for people. Thanks for giving such helpful ideas on what to do as an alternative.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 4 days ago Reply

    You are so welcome

  • Akamatra 4 days ago Reply

    I am actually happily married but I found this very helpful. I like your non bs way.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 4 days ago Reply

    Thank you so much

  • Natalie 4 days ago Reply

    Doing nothing is what I will be doing this Valentine’s Day. Might order some food and watch a comedy 🙂

    My Dee Dee's Diary 4 days ago Reply

    Haha. That’s great. Enjoy!

  • Wanda Lopez 4 days ago Reply

    This was a great post and so on point. We haven’t gone out on Valentine’s Day for years. We stay home, watch a movie or two, eat what we want and stay up late if we want too. Which we won’t, because it’s a weekday and we have to work the next day. Go and what you love on Valentine’s Day, be you and celebrate you.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 7 hours ago Reply

    Yes I agree. Don’t pressure yourself. Just be you and do you.

  • Stacy 4 days ago Reply

    Beautifully written! And so true! Hubby and I met on 2/18 so we celebrate our “love day” then. It really just IS another day.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 7 hours ago Reply

    Awww such a sweet thing to do. Congrats

  • Silvia Martinez 4 days ago Reply

    All great things, my plan is to spend a nice day with my family, have a yummy dinner and maybe watch a movie. And I will buy gift for me.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 7 hours ago Reply

    That sounds like an amazing plan

  • lavandamichelle 4 days ago Reply

    These are all such great advice. I totally agree with you on the first tip, crying doesn’t solve anything. Thanks for sharing.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    You are so welcome sweetie

  • Alison Rost 4 days ago Reply

    There’s really no need to cry on Valentine’s day and feel sorry for yourself. That’s just going to lower your confidence altogether. I think it’s nice to have a spa day and treat yourself to something you like!

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    I do think that you should love yourself enough to be fine being single.

  • Claudia Krusch 4 days ago Reply

    I agree with your post so much! We’ve actually been spending it as a family for the past 4 years!

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    That is a great way to celebrate

  • Ana De- Jesus 4 days ago Reply

    Oh god yes, the worst thing to do on Valentines Day is call your ex, as it bring up old wounds once more. I agree that going out with friends is a great way to spend Valentines Day instead!

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Thank you so much for your thoughts 🙂

    Ana De-Jesus 2 days ago

    You are very welcome! What did you end up doing on Valentines day in the end? Did you do anything that was fun or did you relax?

    My Dee Dee's Diary 1 day ago

    I ended up working on my first YouTube videos so that was fun for me lol

  • These are all really great ideas. I really like the idea of a Valentine’s secret gift exchange! Everyone loves receiving a little something special.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Yes I think everyone would love the chance to feel special.

  • Kiwi 4 days ago Reply

    People call their exs on Valentines Day??? Oh bless their heart thats sad…

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Bless their hearts indeed

  • katriza 4 days ago Reply

    I think my problem every year for valentine’s day is that I expect my husband to remember it, plan something ahead of time, and surprise me. And yet every year he does the same thing lol. I think it’s a great idea to buy myself a gift, because I freakin’ deserve it lol

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    I think you shouldn’t put so much pressure on him lol. Let him surprise you whenever he can.

  • Hey Sharonoox 4 days ago Reply

    This is such a good read. I used to buy gift for myself when I was single and it was perfectly find. Now that I’m married, I buy gift for my hubby and my kids

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    That is awesome. I like that you treated yourself when you were single 🙂

  • Kayla 3 days ago Reply

    I love the idea of buying yourself a gift! I think we all deserve to spoil ourselves once in a while, man or not!

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Yes we do! I think I am gonna spoil myself every now and then.

  • Jeanette RAdmall 3 days ago Reply

    I love all of these ideas. It’s important to celebrate yourself and practice self care and love, single or otherwise attached.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    It is so important. Thank you

  • Waren Jean 3 days ago Reply

    We are gonna have Galentines Day celebration with my friends! Valentines are not just for lovers you know. Haha!

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    That is so awesome! Have fun!

  • Vian 3 days ago Reply

    What not to do this Valentines? Calling your ex, Calling him means “LOVE is still there! haha! Past is Past, I have to move on! Great post!

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Yes leave the past right where it is. They are an ex for a reason.

  • Nadalie Bardowell 3 days ago Reply

    “Single and Satisfied” has such a wonderful ring to it. You’re right, we shouldn’t feel down in the dumps on Valentine’s Day and honestly, I think it is just another holiday designed to make money. Yes, it is a day to remind us to show appreciation to our loved ones but at the same time, it should be a day to appreciate and love ourselves. I love your idea of a secret Santa or spa date, grab some single friends and enjoy the day together surrounded by true friendship.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Thank you so much. I do believe it has become a cash grab holiday and that is so sad

  • Dena S. 3 days ago Reply

    That’s what I’m gonna do. I’ll go to a grocery store and buy all the chocolates I want. Light up some scented candles, take a bubble bath and drink some wine.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    That definitely sounds like a plan. I just chilled and it was great!

  • Mayuri Saxena 3 days ago Reply

    Even I feel that Valentine’s Day is a marketing gimmick but I also feel that this is a perfect day to embrace yourself and show your love towards yourself. These are some awesome tips! 🙂

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    I agree that you can embrace love but I think you should show love to yourself everyday.

  • Sela 3 days ago Reply

    Excellent post. You shared some great suggestions for singles and I will be following your tips for V-Day

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Thank you

  • Erin Kay 3 days ago Reply

    Great advice. I love the spa day idea!! I’m not single but I hate valentines day (so does my husband).

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Lol. Why don’t the both of you do a couples spa day?

  • georgia boanoro 3 days ago Reply

    Great tips here! It’s not the end of the world if someone is single, we have to learn to enjoy our own company more and treat ourselves no matter the day!

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    i agree. it is definitely not the end of the world at all.

  • Afroza Khan 3 days ago Reply

    Valentine’s day feels like any other day to me. I love the ideas you shared. It’s something that we can also apply any other day. Every day is a day to love 🙂

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Thank you so much. I truly appreciate your comment.

  • Louise 3 days ago Reply

    I have been single the last three years and have been perfectly fine about the last two! Like you say, it is just a day, it should be thought of a day for love for everyone, not just couples – and we should be showing our love every day anyway 🙂

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    I agree. We should be showing love to everyone on a daily basis.

  • Anosa Malanga 3 days ago Reply

    I had to share this to my friends who are single and married as well. Valentines day nowadays are being commercialised so I guess everything you said is just right.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    It is so true. I feel like the real meaning has been lost.

  • Fadi 3 days ago Reply

    good advice but the good thing is to enjoy the day and love if you have someone by your side

  • Jessica T 3 days ago Reply

    These are such great ideas! Even though I’m not single, I have spent many Valentine’s alone and I will tell you spending time just being me was always the best

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Thank you. i think it is important to appreciate the time we have alone.

  • For me, Valentine’s Day is just another day. I’ve been with my husband for over 23 years and we have never done anything special for it. I am the least romantic person ever. I’d rather get flowers on a random Tuesday than a designated day.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    That is just fine. If you make other days special then Valentine’s Day is unnecessary.

  • Sondra Barker 3 days ago Reply

    Never feel down just because you dont feel like you can celebrate. Celebrate the love for something else you have in your life!

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Yes, there is so much more to celebrate in our lives besides a spouse.

  • I love Galentine’s Day. There’s a lot of pressure even on couples to make the day super romantic, so I love these ideas for couples as well to keep it low key.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Yes Galentine’s Day is quickly becoming one of my favorite ways to put a twist on the day.

  • Vidya Tiru 3 days ago Reply

    valentine’s day..this has, along with other holidays, become way too commercial in the recent years (and growing up in India, this was not something we knew about until the late ’90s when I saw V-Day cards appearing in the Hallmark stores in India)… not sure how of a fan i am of it now with all the commercialism (the best part of it for me is the chocolates everywhere:)

  • Vidya Tiru 3 days ago Reply

    valentine’s day..this has, along with other holidays, become way too commercial in the recent years (and growing up in India, this was not something we knew about until the late ’90s when I saw V-Day cards appearing in the Hallmark stores in India)… not sure how of a fan i am of it now with all the commercialism (the best part of it for me is the chocolates everywhere:)

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Yes I think the commercialism has really ruined the meaning of the day

  • Jeff Honeywood 3 days ago Reply

    This is such great advice. Valentine’s Day can be lonely for single people, but in reality it is just another day. If you are currently happily single, don’t let Valentine’s Day come around and make you feel bad.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Exactly. If you are a happy single then you should be fine on Valentine’s Day as well.

  • This is such a fabulous post! I think it is important that we don’t let Valentine’s day define us.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Thank you. Valentine’s Day is great but it shouldn’t be the end-all

  • sarah camille 3 days ago Reply

    I’m all about getting myself a Valentine’s Day gift, and I’m engaged lol! I think a little self love goes a long way and Valentine’s Day is the perfect excuse!! 🙂

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Lol it is the best excuse one can have

  • Bobbi 3 days ago Reply

    Valentine’s Day is not a really super celebrated by us but I agree with these tips of what not to do. Calling an ex is definitely not something you should do.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Thank you so much. That is just a no for me.

  • Jamie 3 days ago Reply

    My sister and I were just talking about how the worst thing to do on Vday is to compare yourself. We were talking about how are husbands do small and thoughtful things for us (and every day of the year) yet it’s easy to get on FB and be like OMG LOOK AT WHAT SO AND SO’S HUSBAND DID HOW AMAZINGGGGG and then not feel content. Great list!

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Good for you hun. Comparison will steal your joy before you know it!!

  • Kim 2 days ago Reply

    Definitely all great ideas! I know it’s not always an easy day for people, but I treat just like any other day.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Good for you because it IS just another day.

  • David Elliott 2 days ago Reply

    This is a good list of things to do and not to do when it comes to Valentines Day. For me it would be spending time with my Valentine, my daughter. She means the world to me. Although the secret Santa thing does sound pretty cool.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Awww that is so sweet. Happy to hear that.

  • Blair villanueva 2 days ago Reply

    What is the best way to celebrate valentine’s day? Party like its your and be thankful for the blessings.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 7 hours ago Reply

    Hundred percent agree!

  • Kelly Hutchinson 2 days ago Reply

    I am just not a huge Valentine’s Day person. My husband and I didn’t even get each other anything. NOt calling your ex id a great tip!

    My Dee Dee's Diary 7 hours ago Reply

    Thank you. I made that mistake once and once was enough

  • Wanda Lopez 2 days ago Reply

    Valentine’s Days is a day like every other. Love doesn’t stop existing just because it’s not Valentine’d Day. We spend it home with the girls and stay out of the madness from the restaurants or stores.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 7 hours ago Reply

    That is wonderful. I say the world keeps spinning regardless of the day

  • All She Things 2 days ago Reply

    Some very important tips on letting go and moving on. A day like Valentine’s definitely brings back a lot of memories if you have just come out of a relationship but it’s very important to show some self control and not hurt yourself.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    I agree. We need to give ourselves time to breathe a bit

  • Liz 2 days ago Reply

    What an awesome post! You’re right I’ve never really read anything that tells you what not to do! And it kind of made me laugh out loud when I read the list…the “do not call your ex” is funny. But yes girls life is definitely not over if you do not have a valentine.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Thank you so much. I think there is just too much telling us what we have to do so why not a what not to do as well 🙂

  • Aduke Schulist 2 days ago Reply

    I pretty much did nothing for Valentine’s Day and it was nice. My day was spent instead working on a service project for today.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    That is awesome. I spent it working and it was great

  • khushboo 2 days ago Reply

    That’s a very beautiful post.. Loved reading it.. I agree we should first love ourselves..

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Thank you

  • Oma N. 2 days ago Reply

    Great advice for everyone! Thank you for sharing!

  • Angela Milnes 2 days ago Reply

    This is a really great reminder for people who go through some rough times. I am so blessed to have married my Valentine.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    I am happy to hear that you have married the love of your life.

  • Jennifer L 2 days ago Reply

    I definitely couldnt agree more. I think when we compare ourselves with others it can lead us to a dark place. Just because it’s Valentine’s DAy doesn’t mean we dont have love in our lives. There is our family and friends who shower us with love and support. And most importantly, one of our greatest love affair is to ourselves.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 2 days ago Reply

    Yes, loving ourselves is so important. We need to be aware of other kinds of love in our lives not just romantic love!

  • LaToyia Dennis 1 day ago Reply

    This is so good. I love it. This is a sermon girl.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 1 day ago Reply

    Thanks so much

  • Becca Talbot 1 day ago Reply

    As a singleton, this post is just what I needed! I love the quote “Calling your ex is like seeing a pot of boiling water and deciding to stick your hand in anyway.” – it’s so true! Why would you put yourself through that pain?! x

    My Dee Dee's Diary 7 hours ago Reply

    I don’t know but people do it everyday.

  • Jelena 24 hours ago Reply

    When I was single, I thought that Valentine’s Day does not exist. I spent it like every other day and it was great to me.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 7 hours ago Reply

    That’s a great way to see it too. It really is just another day

  • Sheri - A Busy Bee's Life 21 hours ago Reply

    Hahahahaha! This list is fantastic, I just love it. I definitely agree with dont call your ex. There is a reason why that person is ex and it isn’t love. LOL

    My Dee Dee's Diary 7 hours ago Reply

    It surely isn’t love indeed

  • Nina 20 hours ago Reply

    I’ve never really been one to care about Valentine’s Day. It’s just another day. I love all your tips about self care. I’m especially a fan of going to the spa.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 7 hours ago Reply

    Going to the spa is my fave one too 🙂

  • Amber Stanfield 19 hours ago Reply

    Love the idea of doing a secret santa for Valentine’s Day. It’s always such a hard day for single folks sometimes…its good to ensure that everyone has Valentine! Also love the tips about not crying, or calling your ex! I have a friend I have to talk off the ledge every year! LOL

    My Dee Dee's Diary 7 hours ago Reply

    Oh wow. Your friend sounds like a trip. Thanks for always being good to them

  • Ally Jones 18 hours ago Reply

    I love this whole list! It’s so important not to get so wrapped up in the negative on this day.

    My Dee Dee's Diary 7 hours ago Reply

    Exactly. Just be yourself and enjoy the day for what it is

  • Damond Nollan 17 hours ago Reply

    This was a very timely list. As a recently single man, I went into the holiday thinking much of the same thing. What should I do with myself? As a father of two beautiful girls, I ended up spending the evening with them. While it helped, it didn’t completely take away the thought that I was missing something. Thanks for sharing!

    My Dee Dee's Diary 7 hours ago Reply

    You’re welcome. I know it can be hard but overtime you will get through it

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